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After reading several arguments in the different posts here, I have come to the conclusion that everyone gets a little touchy around the holidays. From a birthmother's perspective, I wax nostalgic about the choice I made 16 years ago. I know my son is in good hands, but I long to see him. I have other children to celebrate with, but there is still a void that can never be replaced. I think that we all should be considerate of each other's emotions during this time of the year.
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I'm writing from an adoptee's point of view. But You are right. We should definetly be considerate of each other's feelings. I admire you for being so strong and sensitive in that area. Thank you for pointing it out to us.
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Thank you, I agree 100%. I gave up a son 2 years ago, and holidays are very bittersweet as I do have 4 other children to celebrate with. Glad you had the courage to point this out to everyone. Just hope they read it! Thanks again! :)
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you are right..yes i have other kids to spend the holidays with..i do still miss my two lil ones and now that we have just had two miscarriages the holidays just seem hard for me this year...how can i stop thinking about the babies that i dont have and be happy about what i do have...
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I totally agree. This will be the first holiday season that I have known my birthfamily. I always spend holidays with my family but bmom has asked me too join them too. I am trying to figure a way to integrate all family, my a -parents are divorced so I am already juggling 2 fams of my on and then the in-laws out of state at new years. It's a sensitive matter and I dont want to leave b-fam out since she was kind enough to include me in her family events but it's hard trying to please everyone. If I had to make an absolute choice , of course I would chose the family that raised me...and no one is asking me to make a choice. I just dont want to hurt any one.
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