Adoption Support Group
Adoption is the legal act of permanently placing a child with a parent or parents other than the birth parents. Whether you are looking to adopt, putting your child up for adoption, parenting an adopted child, or just thinking about it, this is the place to discuss.
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Ok so i don't want to really bore everyone with my whole story but here's the gist. I was adopted when i was three days old and i'm just starting to have problems with it. I think i'm getting depressed. I'm sad constantly and i feel so alone. I feel like i'm never going to do anything good. My bmom and i haven't talked in about 40 days. The end isn't in sight. This is causing me soo much pain and hurt. I didn't even get a call on my bday. Ok and my amom doesn't even know i'm feeling this way. We never talk about this. and when we do it's really hard for me. So i've been talking to my counsoler at school about it. I'm starting to really worry her and she thinks i should talk to my mom about it. She thinks i should talk to someone that knows more about adoption and stuff.
I don't know what to do and i need advice. Advice on how to tell my mom and if i should. Also what about getting help. I'm really scared to. anything would be apprecaited
thanks
Ok so i don't want to really bore everyone with my whole story but here's the gist. I was adopted when i was three days old and i'm just starting to have problems with it. I think i'm getting depressed. I'm sad constantly and i feel so alone. I feel like i'm never going to do anything good. My bmom and i haven't talked in about 40 days. The end isn't in sight. This is causing me soo much pain and hurt. I didn't even get a call on my bday. Ok and my amom doesn't even know i'm feeling this way. We never talk about this. and when we do it's really hard for me. So i've been talking to my counsoler at school about it. I'm starting to really worry her and she thinks i should talk to my mom about it. She thinks i should talk to someone that knows more about adoption and stuff.
I don't know what to do and i need advice. Advice on how to tell my mom and if i should. Also what about getting help. I'm really scared to. anything would be apprecaited
thanks
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I haven't read all your journal entries but all I can say to you is that I hope you will talk to your amom about your feelings. I have an adopted daughter who I try to keep the communications open with. She is only 8 but she is so worried about her bmom and siblings. I try to help her any way I can and I also try to give her what she needs. Hopefully she will be able to re-connect with her bmom but I let her know that I am here for her every day. I can't imagine what she or you are going through since I am not adopted but I do have some idea of what your amom is going through. I can't imagine loving my daughter any more than I do if I had given birth to her and although I cannot speak for you amom I bet she feels the same way as I do. I know it might be hard for you to talk to her but I know I would feel really bad if my daughter had your feelings and didn't talk to me. Good luck
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As a teen the feelings are different than as a younger child - they think differently and it's great that your daughter Kelly is able to speak about it now hopefully that has set a presidence that will continue throughout her life. If it was not something that was really ever spoken about then the situation gets tougher. Feelings of guilt from the older child that they are betraying their parents... your not Littled. Try to bring up the subject slowly - give a piece to your mom and see how she takes it - you might just be surprised on how open minded your mom can be. Else in case she isn't you haven't given up the entirety of it and it won't put on you one more large thing to worry about. Just a thought. GL
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