Adoption Support Group
Adoption is the legal act of permanently placing a child with a parent or parents other than the birth parents. Whether you are looking to adopt, putting your child up for adoption, parenting an adopted child, or just thinking about it, this is the place to discuss.
Well, so far, the bm has not come back around. She wants to keep the baby. I have had a long history of infertility treatments - 6 iui's, 8 ivf's, and one donor egg cycle. All failed. Now this. This was supposed to be my sure thing. Everyone said, "well, you can always adopt". I don't think I can recover from this. I don't know what my purpose in life is. If I don't have a child, then why am I here? Don't worry, I won't be threatening suicide. But I don't know why I have to get up in the morning either. I'm not working, but I don't think going back to work will make it any easier. We had always known that I would be a stay at home mom. I was so miserable at work, and it kept getting worse. It started to feel like my punishment for not getting pregnant. So, we decided to let me stay home and concentrate on starting our family. I knew infertility treatments were not guaranteed, but then my donor cycle failed, and now this. I just don't know how much more I can take. I just don't. What can I do?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
We do know that being pregnant or giving birth could kill me. I have to stay on blood thinners for the rest of my life and have had to learn how to deal with this life change.
Being a mom has been my dream since I can remember, so believe me when I say that I know exactly how you feel right now.
Hubby and I got on a waiting list for adoption and have been passed over 2 times in the first 6 months that we were on the list to other adoptive families. Believe me when I say, that also has you re-thinking who you are and what your purpose is.
We are now the next on the list but through all this (and some grief counseling) I have learned that I do have a purpose and my time will come, just like yours. God has a plan for all of us. He has a perfect child just for us.
We do have to learn patience and a whole lot of faith. I pray a lot! My prayers ask god for strength to handle the wait, strength in handling being not picked, and most of all strengthen my faith in god. As hard as it is, I pray to give him my situation and that he use me in some way to not only help others and prepare me for whatever he has in store for me.
I know that right now this sounds terrible and you are hating this advice, but do trust me when I say that in time you will heal and the advice will work.
God Speed...