My children (4 and 2) have been with us for almost a year. They have an older half sister that lived with them previously. They were seperated due to the older sister's abuse toward the younger children. She used to pull my daughter's hair until chunks came out, and bite her until she would bleed among other things. The kids have seen her for visits a small handfull of times since they moved in with us. Everytime they did my daughter walked away in tears and my son pushed her (the half sister) away. The last time we saw her she told my daughter she was going to KILL her. Neither seems to want ANYTHING to do with her. My daughter has stated on more than one occation that she does not miss her and does not wish to see her. It has been several months since we have seen her and I was contacted to set up a visit. We are very busy and cannot do it right now but things settle down next month. Thinking about the idea of a visit has brought up questions of how healthy is it for our kids to see her. They don't want to and my daughter is set back for weeks after they do see her. Our adoption is final so the choice is totally ours. Our caseworker feels it is very important for them to see her but I want to move on and I think my kids do too. What do we do?
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