WHO TOLD YOU THAT YOUR BIRTHMOTHER DID NOT WANT YOU TO KNOW HER OR HER FAMILY? I AM ADOPTED TOO. IT MAY NOT BE TRUE AT ALL THAT YOUR BIRTH MOTHER DID NOT WANT TO KNOW YOU THEN OR NOW.

I must agree with Jayna on this... just because an adoption was closed does not necessarily mean your birthmother did not want you to know her. My adoption was closed & I recently found out my birthmom was actively looking for me fpr a long time & I didn't even know it. Unless you hear directly from her that she doesn't want you to know, then don't assume she doesn't.

my adopted mom and dad told me that she never wanted to see me and that she is a drug addict and I am lucky to have them. Should I try and find her? I that I might get a slammed door in my face...

You were adopted nearly 30 years ago. Your mom was "supposedly" addicted to drugs then. We don't know the true story. Our adoptive parents meant well, but you should have never been told that. Maybe she was, maybe she wasn't. I would hope she is different now. The odds are that she is. Just because she may have been on drugs doesn't mean she didn't love you. If you want to look for her I would certainly do that. I believe your mom made a decision when she wasn't capable due to being on drugs. I will never believe that if she hadn't been on drugs that she would have said that she never wanted you to know her or her family.

Go for your dreams and find her. Don't wait. Just because your mom may have had some problems when you were born doesn't mean that she wasn't a good person and that she loves you. I'm sure she has never forgotten about you.

Jayna

It totally depends on what you really want and wether you're willing to take the risk. It's true, you could get the door slammed in your face... or you may be pleasantly surprised. But I still stand by not assuming anything until you know straight from her. Besides, perhaps things have changed over the years, even if it WAS true back then (which may or may not be so). It all comes down to whether you're willing to take the risk or not.

i have the same problem. only thing is, i don't want to meet my parents. long story, it's on my page. but i'm not allowed to meet them anyway's.

Hi, I wished it was an open one for me , because I truly want her to find me. I gave someone the love and tenderness of a beautifuol baby that hopefully had a better life then I could give her a the time. Hope and pray she is very well loved because inside me I love her very much. Pray that the parents have the love and understanding to tell the truth about her. It is up to God for miracles. Melene couldn't have said it any better .

I understand, that is not easy to give a child for adoption. I have my own daughter and I could not imagine giving her up. Which is why I am trying to get advice on how to approach her after 29 years of being with another family. I know her name, but do not know where she lives.