I am trying to learn some of the reasons some birthmoms don't want to make contact once the children have found them. This hasn't happened to me (YET) my b-mom and I are talking but I feel I am more invested than she is. I know she is scared, she has told me as much, but I have tried to explain to her that I AM HERE and not going anywhere unless she wants it that way. She always seems glad to hear from me but if contact is made, I do it mostly. she does respond to my emails and she did call me back when she said she would. It's that ol' fear of rejection kicking in, I know. She says all the right things but I cant get passed the feeling that something just isnt right. she is sort of closed off about her feelings, which is understandable and that may just be "the way she is" hard to say...I am just trying to get some insight so I can know my feelings are valid. I went looking for her and I know she didnt ask for any of this. I really dont want to push her away, so I dont know how much is too much or how much is too little. AARRGGHH...this is way harder than I expected it to be. People keep telling me things will work themselves out, well, sure they will, but I dont want things to work themselves into to no contact after I have poured my heart into it. If its going to be that way I had rather know sooner than later. so any birthmoms that have been through this, help me out
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