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I have seen alot of posts in this forum from people who have found their b-mums (myself included) but I was wondering if there was anyone who had found their b-dads too. I would be interested in hearing about others experiences as I have recently found mine and it has been a very different experience (but a good one) from finding my b-mum
deleted_user
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To start with - Congrats! I have not and will not look for mine - I have my reasons but you are right not as many search for the fathers...
lav
lav
Congradulations on finding your birth dad!! You're right in the fact that the majority of ppl look for their b/mom and not their b/dad. There are many personal reasons for this. As for me, I don't think that my b/dad even knows about me. However, after the holidays I am begining a search for him. He will be 84 years old in 2008. When I do find out his name I haven't decided if I will make any kind of contact.
Again, I'm happy for you!
deleted_user
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I think the reason many people dont start with searching for the fathers is the bond isnt there like with the moms, not to say you cant form a bond. Growing inside a person for 9 months kinda kick starts the bond issue. I know my fathers name and where he is, I have a good lead on a phone number but have not contacted him yet.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi i did find my bmom first. I had no idea where mine was or anything. My bmom actually found him for me. To my surprise he lives about 3-4 hours away in my state. I've been going through a lot with my bmom and everything and i don't feel like it's the right time to contact him now. I'm also worried it might take the same path as my bmom. But congrats on finding your bdad! I'm really happy for you! xxx
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I found my biological father and my birth mom. VERY different experience. I had an instant bond with my birth mom and I am not so fond of my bio-father.
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