We have adopted a child from the Ukraine from one of the orphanages. She was seven and is now 15. She left behind four brothers. She was four years old when she was put into the orphanage. She literally grieves at wanting to contact them. She also has the reactive attachment disorder. I (adoptive mother) am the one she targets when she is angry. Even when she isn't angry she let's me know I am not her 'mother'. If it would help her, should I give her her birth mother's name? She has a picture of two of her brothers. Should I try to locate them in the Ukraine or would I be opening a can of worms? I don't even know if the Ukraine would allow me to try and find them. I would appreciate any advice I can get from anyone.
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