I lost my mum to cancer June 2007 and whilst doing some tidying up I came accross documents regarding the adoption of her daughter, a baby previous to my mum's marriage to my dad. Anyhow from what I've been told and read, mum's adopted daughter objected to contact about 20 years ago and hasn't responded to anything since then. I'm not sure exactly how mum tried to contact her or if it ever made it. My delimma is...do I hunt her down, do I move on and except that she doesn't want to know her biological family. If your adopted...would you want to know if your mum has passed away or would it be better to live not knowing. It's so sad that they've both missed out on each other. My mum was a beautiful woman and I know the pain she would have lived with all the years. I wish I could try and show my sister what her mother was like. I want to know her, I want her to know my kids (when I have some), I want her to meet her grandparents, aunty and uncle before they too are no longer her. I can only think about what I want because I have no idea what it's like to be adopted...can anyone shed some light on what to do?? Or atleast how they would feel about this...on the receiving end???
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