For the past few months I have read posts on this site from both adoptees and b-mothers and there is one thing that I see come up frequently.....how the b-mother must have loved her child enormously in order to give them up for a better life. Sometimes I find this really hard to believe, I mean I understand that everyone wants the best for their children but material goods are not the most important thing in this world. So many b-mums said how much they loved (and still love) their children so wouldn't that child have been better staying with the person who gave birth to them and loved them so much? I am not saying that all b-mums should keep their babies and I know there are always instances where adoption IS a better option but as a single mum of two little girls who is struggling hugely financially I sometimes feel like MY b-mother just took the easy way out. She was 20, not 15 or 16 like alot of the other b-mums and I have sometimes question whether it was done more for selfish reasons like she just didn't want to settle down and raise a child at that age. I am sure that this post is going to annoy some people and I am sorry if it does but i just want to be honest about how I feel.
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