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Hi All,
I received this today and wanted to pass it on to the group. If this resonates with anyone or if you know anyone who might fit the bill, please let me know. Also, if you wish to cross post this to other adoption related groups you may be involved in, please do so.
I really hope you are able to help me with this.
After crying through all of those reunions I just went through, I cant barely see anyone.
I am a 55 yr of mother of a 38 yr old son Christopher Scott ( that is what I named him ) before my parents made me give him up. He was born November 5 1970, at Scott Air Force base in Ill.
I had bonded with my son for three days when I was taken back to my home in Hazelwood, MO. That was the worst day of my life, when my father said I would be out in the street if I had decided to keep him. I was going to give him to a loving family that I had not had the advantage of living in. But in the hospital, I guess things got mixed up and I had my baby son in my arms and that was all it took.
Then I had changed my mind. I wanted my son no matter what. But at 16yrs old you dont hold the reins.
I need to find my son. Mine was tragic, I had no control,I may never see him. I need some closer of some sort.
I would love to see a picture or information or something.
Anything...
Maybe he doesnt even know he was adopted.
Can you guide me or talk to me to help me find him. I am prepared for rejection, I have thought of that as well.
I also have my sons hospital birth certificate, arm and leg bands and other medical papers from his birth.
Please pray with me. I am so tired of the tears of sadness.
Truely
Debi Pomrenke
sundee53@yahoo.com :( :(
I received this today and wanted to pass it on to the group. If this resonates with anyone or if you know anyone who might fit the bill, please let me know. Also, if you wish to cross post this to other adoption related groups you may be involved in, please do so.
I really hope you are able to help me with this.
After crying through all of those reunions I just went through, I cant barely see anyone.
I am a 55 yr of mother of a 38 yr old son Christopher Scott ( that is what I named him ) before my parents made me give him up. He was born November 5 1970, at Scott Air Force base in Ill.
I had bonded with my son for three days when I was taken back to my home in Hazelwood, MO. That was the worst day of my life, when my father said I would be out in the street if I had decided to keep him. I was going to give him to a loving family that I had not had the advantage of living in. But in the hospital, I guess things got mixed up and I had my baby son in my arms and that was all it took.
Then I had changed my mind. I wanted my son no matter what. But at 16yrs old you dont hold the reins.
I need to find my son. Mine was tragic, I had no control,I may never see him. I need some closer of some sort.
I would love to see a picture or information or something.
Anything...
Maybe he doesnt even know he was adopted.
Can you guide me or talk to me to help me find him. I am prepared for rejection, I have thought of that as well.
I also have my sons hospital birth certificate, arm and leg bands and other medical papers from his birth.
Please pray with me. I am so tired of the tears of sadness.
Truely
Debi Pomrenke
sundee53@yahoo.com :( :(
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We as adopted adults would all like to believe that this was our beginning...but is not always the case...I at this point in my life can say yes I love her but cant put her feelings 1st before mine...yes is sad for her but was ultimately her decision regardless if she was 16...I will respond 1st to an adopted persons plea!!!!then a birthmothers plea....The child and their current and past situation would be at top of my list...Love, Betsy
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