Hello, I don't have any suggestion because I am in a simular place. My son is 13 and just diagnosed with ADHD and although I have known for sometime at least now he gets meds during the school day so it at least gets him through school. And a lot less phone calls for me for sure.
My son also doesn't care about his school work, my fiance ahas even given him some big time incentives to get him motivated but nothing seems to work. But oddly enough he loves school. He was suspended from school twice this year and almost had a major heart attack from anxiety because he couldn't go. He ended up both times jumping on the school bus and going to school.
I am happy to hear your child is into stuff and sticks with it. My son is into sports but quits as soon as he starts. They say that is common but it is costly and annoying!
I love my son dearly and thats what keeps me going. I do realize now he can't help himself but it doesn't make it easier at times either.

I have the same problem exactly . but i have a 1 forgetshr assighments3 year old girl. She is very talented, she plays the piano, guitar, and clarinet. She also does artwork thats out of this world :) she also forgets to do her homework and school assignments. But things have got ALOT better now for me. This is the stradety I have came up with and its been working well. First of all I know what her work assighments and homework are going to be in every class. I keep close contact with all her teachers. I am ob her everyday reminding her what she needs to do or work assignment she needs to do and I make sure she does them and I get updates when needed from every teacher. Instead of taking away the things she loves to do, I tell her if she does better in school I will let her get piono or guitar lessons. So I basically have guitar lessons for her, I have a tutor that comes twice a week to help her with HW and to keep her focused at scbool. She sees a therapist who helps her learn new new ways to remember and stay focusedhome as well. And I found a school that taylors to her creativeness. Now she does great in her core classes becuz she wants to be able to do her music and arts of the public high school and put her in a music and arts academy school

I put her in a music and arts academy charter school. Buy being able to do what she loves every day in school doing her homework and keeping better organized is not so hard for her. Cuz she knows that if she doesnt do well and doesnt at least try to do better in her core classes the school could let her go.

I am a parent of a 28 yr-old son who is back living at home again. He's lived here this stint for over 1 year (over 4+ ys. prior). Our wonderful son was diagnosed with ADD (he's the opposite of hyperactive component though) when he was about 7 ys old. Back then, the diagnosis was pretty unprofessional, even with the psychologist and counsellors we paid a lot for to get a real, professional evaluation (one psychologist discounting another psychiatrist's ADHD testing, etc.) . My main reason to finally reach a blog spot where I can actually blog about my ADD son is the I WISH/IF ONLY thoughts that I have now at 61 ys. old. I was so nonconfrontational through the years when my son would not "do the obvious", meaning developing his own thought process/note taking method/whatever the heck it would take method, to just get through life in a "thinking responsively" way. It now is so important to me because it is so late in my son's life now and he doesn't have the where-withal to stand on his own two feet. I feel most of it is my husband and my fault because it was so confusing about "holding him responsible" for his inaction in school (oh yeah, he was on a learning disability curriculum), we did so much to help him, to the point that his teachers asked why I was putting in the majority of the effort regarding son's school performance than my son actually was. I never wanted our son to feel our frustration over his seeming to not even try to remember something, not wanting to write a note for himself as he got older to help him remember. Do you understand where I'm coming from? He gives the least amount of effort on being responsible/wanting to get ahead. It was so confusing on bring up a responsible child that can make it as an adult out in the world when they are diagnosed with ADD. How do you hold them accountable, where is the line re accountability when they have ADD? Now look where my husband, myself and my son are 28 ys. later. Professionals really need to help parents understand how much should my ADHD child be accountable for? How do I instill responsibility in my child so they can make it in this world on their own? We've seen our son do amazing things -- graduate Basic Training in the Army (though he got a general discharge because of pot smoking), living completely on his own in an unfamiliar state for one year, getting a lot of good reviews regarding his work/jobs he has had (he has been fired from a few jobs though). He gives very little effort towards making it on his own. He is now with a really good counsellor who specializes with ADHD clients, but again he is still at home, hanging out mostly with us his parents instead of his own age group, putting out minimal effort towards moving out. I want to give him a move-out deadline, but my husband doesn't because he fears it will push our son over the edge. Oh, why weren't we able to teach our son about responsibility as he was growing up? We were so confused about that blurred ADD line of when is he to be responsible, or when is he not able to follow through on homework, a chore, etc. due to the ADD, and yet how can he still learn the skills necessary to become a responsible adult, etc. Because of all the confusion during my son's learning years, it wreaked havoc in my husband and my marriage. And at 61 and 63 ys. old, my husband and I still have arguments over how and when to hold our son accountable. Parents: Get your professionals to help you with this issue so your situation doesn't turn out like our situation has in what should be our retirement years.