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I am a 48-year-old who has recently been diagnosed and believe I fit past profiles that would suggest this condition has been prevalent since childhood. I am desperate for progress but highly reluctant to use meds--had very bad experience with strattera and my wife is adamant that drug therapy would be harmful to our barely alive relationship/marriage. What would you recommend are priority steps that should/could be taken first in order to show her that I am trying to make an impact that could save our partnership?
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a friend suggested to me:Relive your first meeting with your partner
:talk about why you felt about the other(love)
:start dating with your partner again
:go to a counciller to openly talk of your diagnosis
:meds...without it ,what was the relationship before treatment
:find some closure of accepting eachother.
for me its still ongoing and personally im finding that my partner is in denial.Im more focused and verbaly secure,I guess that puts a fear in a relationship...who knows....i do hope you work it out,somehow,...its a struggle I KNOW.:)
I'm not yet diagnosed but can very much relate to your struggles. I had a negative reaction to anti-depressants that caused a complete numbness emotionally and physically.
I do however, disagree that medication is the wrong answer. As I'm sure you've researched, ADHD is almost certainly down to an imbalance of dopamine. That's not something that can be changed by anything other than drug therapy.
It all gets very complicated when you're trying to do the best for someone else as well as yourself. I know myself how difficult it is to have ADHD and a fully functioning relationship.
It sounds like you've been with your wife/partner a while and I'm sure she loves you very much. Try to be as honest as you can and understand things from both sides.
I hope you manage to find a compromise,
Take it easy,
Jen :-)
i truly wish i could because i know they work. you just have to find the right one for you. there are different types and if strattera is bad for you, that does not at all mean that something else wont work.. it could save your partnership in my opinion. good wishes to you
Stratterra was bad for me too but there are other options, and I believe that having my ADD managed has really helped me to be able to relate to people in a more positive way.
If you really dont want to try any meds, try to find a councelor that specializes in ADD. They can help you with time management, goal setting, organizagtion, etc. and you will be surprised how much it will help your relationships if you can get your own life in balance.
Need to get a copy myself; diagnosed @ 59....few months ago.....
medication works wonders for some....
AdderallX sent me into ORBIT......
my cousin swears by Strattera.....
lower dosages of Adderall now.....affects sleep....it's speed...lost weight.....
BUT.....you go to do what you got to do...
in fact, am going to get out in this 100+ HEAT tomorrow and go get the book......
why does you wife object so much to the drug therapy??? your brain is lacking certain chemicals.....