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Attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and attention deficit disorder (ADD) are more common than you might think. It is a syndrome that exhibits symptoms such as hyperactivity, forgetfulness, mood shifts, poor impulse control, and distractibility. Join others who suffer from these conditions and share your experiences.
I have a 10 year old son who was diagnosed ADHD 2 years ago, he also has OCD, Depression, Tics, ODD,Eating disorder and he is a cleptomaniac.
Things have just got worse he recently set fire to one of my neighbours doors and been cautioned with arson, I put him on a fire scheme a year before this happened and they stepped the level right up and now they say they can't help any further it is obvious that the can't get through to him. They put a referal threw to social services as he is now a high risk. Social services can't help me because he has got a medical diagnoses, he is starting anger management .
What has made things worse is that 7 of my neighbours have complained against my son, which I understand they are angry, I haver tryed explaining his issues but they just dont want to hear it. A man for the council rang me a few weeks ago to explain that he is refering my son to Area Casework Panel at the housing, he was so horrible to me on the phone he said I should not let my son out if he is not watched constantly, my neighbours have told him I dont care about my sons behaviour. He basically judged me and implied I was a bad parent and if his behaviour doesn't change they will take legal action against my son.
I spoke to him again yesterday as I found out that they had already held a meeting to discuss what they are going to do to my son, he told me I had no right to be at any of the meetings and they Know more about my son than I do. I know they have not spoke to my sons phsic, support worker at the school and none of them have even met him.
Well this has been the final straw for me I am just so angry, and really don't know what to do.
I have been suffering depression now for over a year and have had to give up work because of the constant meetings, exclusions and calls from the school. Yesterday I just broke down on the way home from school and I havent slept since I have never felt so worthless and low as I do now, I honestly just want to go away from it all now. Am I really taht bad of a mum?
Things have just got worse he recently set fire to one of my neighbours doors and been cautioned with arson, I put him on a fire scheme a year before this happened and they stepped the level right up and now they say they can't help any further it is obvious that the can't get through to him. They put a referal threw to social services as he is now a high risk. Social services can't help me because he has got a medical diagnoses, he is starting anger management .
What has made things worse is that 7 of my neighbours have complained against my son, which I understand they are angry, I haver tryed explaining his issues but they just dont want to hear it. A man for the council rang me a few weeks ago to explain that he is refering my son to Area Casework Panel at the housing, he was so horrible to me on the phone he said I should not let my son out if he is not watched constantly, my neighbours have told him I dont care about my sons behaviour. He basically judged me and implied I was a bad parent and if his behaviour doesn't change they will take legal action against my son.
I spoke to him again yesterday as I found out that they had already held a meeting to discuss what they are going to do to my son, he told me I had no right to be at any of the meetings and they Know more about my son than I do. I know they have not spoke to my sons phsic, support worker at the school and none of them have even met him.
Well this has been the final straw for me I am just so angry, and really don't know what to do.
I have been suffering depression now for over a year and have had to give up work because of the constant meetings, exclusions and calls from the school. Yesterday I just broke down on the way home from school and I havent slept since I have never felt so worthless and low as I do now, I honestly just want to go away from it all now. Am I really taht bad of a mum?
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you dont sound like a bad mum to me, you sound overwhelmed, where is his dad? can he help you out any, does your son see a pdoc, or go to therapy? I am raising a 12 year old grandson by myself, he is bipolar, ocd, adhd, he is on a lot of meds and sees a pdoc and a terapist every month, at first he seen them every week till school started, I understand how hard it is, you might need something for depression yourself, if you dont keep it together he wont either, I am so sorry you have to go through this, God Bless you
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thankyou for your kind words. My sons biological farther has not seen him since he was born, he is a waste of space. My now husband has been my sons dad for 10 years and is very supporting but since I gave up work he has had to do a lot over extra hours to help support the family financially. My son see's a phsic once a month and has been having therapy every week up untill last week when they changed it to anger management. He is very depressed at the moment since I broke down on wednesday, and he is getting bullied badly at school. He is going to my mothers in the country tonight till wednesday to have a break, I know it sounds bad but I am looking forward to having a rest.
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I think you need the rest. try to enjoy it. I am sorry you have to go through so much.
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Take the chance to recharge!!!! We are not robots...we need support, even if it is just words on a page that says "YOU ARE NOT ALONE!" Try not to let other people's comments bring you down, you know in your heart you are a good Mom!!! Otherwise you wouldn't be so upset! I don't have a lot of advice, but I do know ...things go up and down, and when they are down....I tell myself to breath..it is gonna be ok! I'll do my best and somehow it always is ok!! Take care of yourself, your son and family need you!! :o)
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