
ADHD / ADD Support Group
Attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and attention deficit disorder (ADD) are more common than you might think. It is a syndrome that exhibits symptoms such as hyperactivity, forgetfulness, mood shifts, poor impulse control, and distractibility. Join others who suffer from these conditions and share your experiences.

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My 5 1/2 year old was just diagnosed with ADHD the non hyper kind. He has always been strong willed and it's been the last 2 months in school that he has slipped behind in tasks and always complains that he can't remember anything. He is being punished at school by his teacher and with held from recess for not finishing assignments on time. He used to like school and now cries and doesn't want to go. I think the work is getting harder for him and the teacher more frustrated and it is wearing on him. The teacher has no compassion for him and refuses to believe he has ADD. She thinks the pediatrician gave the wrong diagnosis so we had him seen by a Pyscologist and will get results soon. Does it get better and once you got help for children, what worked for them. Drugs, Diet, Therapy....?
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i recently learnt (after so many years)if you keep everything posative instead of negative these kids actually want to please their teachers and the key was to get a teacher that understood adhd/add and could manage and make specialised programing for for son, and guess what it works.
1- never let them blame you ,your son or family life.
2-give them teaching techniques this forces them to understand in a subtle but assertive way.
3-always be posative
4-make the school assess him and give proof or documentation of all you finding from your visits so when it comes to the crunch you can stand your ground.
in my years working along side teachers i have learnt something.
"teachers are like hairdressers hard to find good ones".
You are my first person that I have reached out to since signing up to this community. I came to this site looking for help and support as I grasp for straws looking for answers and solutions that I am faced with as I cope with my ADD. If you read my profile I also have a 14yr Son who is ADHD. I have traveled simular roads that you are traveling with your son now.
As I read your posting, my heart is very saddened for you and your son.
I am still trying to learn as much as possible about ADD/ADHD but I hope to give you some direction to resolve your situation or at least difuse the situation.
As I have reached this portion of this response, I am angered at the way the teacher has handled your child. I don't know how much time is spent teaching the teachers of tommorrow how to handle students with special needs. Maybe I shouldn't fault the teacher but maybe the blame should be directed more towards the programs that prepare these teachers to become teachers.
If I may make a suggestion, I would ask to meet with the principle of your sons school. I would have a one on one conversation, explaining to the princple how things have unfolded up to this point in time. Ask the principle, how does the School Board handle these situations.
I would also ask you to do some research of your own and see what kind of support or protection you can get from the "ADA", (American Disabilities Act)in your location as well as State wide area. I would pay close attention to your personal rights as well as your sons!!!
After you have done the ground work you now have ammo if you feel that you are not getting the cooperation you hope to get. It would be at this point that I would ask that you have a meeting with both teacher and principle and discuss possible options. It would be at this time that I would mention the "ADA", and tell them that I you don't get the satisfation you are looking for, you will go to the school board and "TAKE ANY NECCESARY ACTION!!!"
Plz understand my intent, and it is by no means to wage a war with the teacher or the school. This is your son and your sons future were talking about.
I have great admiration for our teachers and I feel that they don't get the credit they deserve nor justifiable wages. I feel that the teachers are the key to the future of America. We need to invest in the future through our teacher as well as our kids!!!
I hope I was able to give you some direction and hope you succeed.
You are welcome to contact me, and let me know how things turned out.
To You and your Son I wish you all the best!!! Sincerly, Mark P. S.
We as parents, and this is likely to tick a few people off and I apologize in advance if it does, also have to be careful to not let ADHD define our kids, nor excuse them from completeing work. I had a neighbor who did that with her sons. Every failed grade, every missed assignment, every screw up in school was the fault of ADHD, never did she and her husband hold their kids accountable for their behavior or choices, because 'it is all the fault of ADHD!
My daughter has ADHD, there was a thought for a time she had Aspergers or Sensory Intergration Disorder, I still expected and expect, her teacher to hold Rebecca accountable for incomplete work. If that means missing recess, so be it. Her assignments are being, and for the sake of the teachers ,have been for awhile, modified to accomodate Rebecca, Rebecca still has to do her part in all of this.
At the very least, consider holding your son back a year. On top of ADHD he is only 5, and boys mature much slower than girls. Better to hold them back in kindergarten than to have to face that issue in say 4th grade when it is far more emotionally damaging than it is in kindergarten.
I was held back, back then they didn't call it ADHD, they said things like "She isn't living up to potential" or "If she would just try harder or concentrate more" as well as the ever popular "She is flighty and inattentive" Yes, being held back was difficult, more later in life than it was then. I don't blame my teachers, or my parents, it is what it is, was what it was. The one good thing is, I never let it define my life, I used it instead. (Darn genetic stubborn streak) I have a fine sense of "OH? So that is what you think? Fine, let me show you how wrong you are!"
Look into tutoring also, it can be a great help, and kids often do for others what they won't do for us. Look for and take advantage of every tool, assistance program, educational oppurtunity you can get your hands on. It is out there!
And remember, there IS light at the end of the tunnel and it is beautful bright and wonderful!, You just need to get threw the tunnel to reach it!