Even though I've been diagnosed with ADD several times and I know it runs in families I was still one of those "typical" people who thought it was an over-exageration in children. You see, I have three children ages 13, 9, and 7 who have been the easiest, most well-behaved, children imaginable. They are loved by teachers, grocery store checkers, waiters and waitresses, and they are all in honors or gifted programs....AND i thought it was all because I am such an amazing mom (lol)! BUT the thing is, I don't have just 3 children. I have 4. My youngest will be three in October. I am a single mom. I cry almost every night. I am just about certain this little man I have is ADHD. He can make me smile, laugh, cry, and scream all in a matter of 20 seconds. He was practically born talking. To put it bluntly: He NEVER shuts up! The only time he is not talking is when he is asleep or pooping (he does talk in his sleep also though). Like many stories I've read, my son like many ADHD childern does not sit still for more than 5 seconds. He doesn't play toys for more than 20 seconds, but he does throw them and break them and flush them down the toilet. He hits and bites his older siblings. Today he pushed down his 2 year-old cousin and she doesn't want to play with him anymore because this is a regular occurence. Forget time-outs, forget talking, FORGET IT ALL. I have done things the same with him as I have done with my 3 older chidlren. I have tried new strategies. I have tried old-school strategies. I have tried EVERYTHING! He runs in the road like it is the best thing in the world to do. He loves to put his food on the carpet and step on it and he needs constant attention from the time he wakes up until he goes to bed, and I meant it when I said he NEVER SHUTS UP. He is hilarious. A comedian and a dancer. He has the vocabulary of, i don't know!, a six year old? The things that come out of his mouth shock and amaze me. I have no doubts he is as intelligent as his older siblings, but I'm not sure how that combined with ADHD is going to affect his life. We already never go out to eat. Even at McDonalds or the local pizza jungle gym play place he is more than a handful. I can't even stop at 7-11 to grab a gallon of milk. Getting him into his carseat is a war and sitting down to dinner is virtually impossible. I love him SO much, just like my others I couldn't imagine life without him, but I cry every single day because I can't even spend five minutes reading with his 7 year-old brother or having a conversation without disruptions from him. I feel like my other kids are being neglected because it is always all about him. I am a complete and total mess!!! Today though, I finally decided to schedule him an appointment because, as most of us know, -you just know when something isn't right with your child- and this behavior isn't just going to go away on its own. He also will be starting Tae Kwon Do with his brothers the day after he turns 3. which I'm hoping will curb a little of his energy. Please don't suggest trying one of the ADHD diets: single working mother of four, with NO-ONE to help with the kids, 3 different sports, and too many doctor appts, we eat healthy and I'm a vegetarin, anything more than that is literally going to send me over the edge. I'm trying my best and I really am holding on by a thread. I'm waiting for that day when I can't hold on any longer and I prance over to lala land and can't find my way back and that day sure seems to be getting closer (that should seem pretty obvious from this post). I think one more thing on my plate and I will be in lala land. I really do!
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