You may want to see a Dr - he may also be bipolar - at least if he is swinging that far between moods, that may be partly to blame. If he is on ADHD meds, they may also be ausing some of the seings and it may be time to get his dose adjusted :)

Patience is a hrd thing to find - make sure you always take a bit of time for yourself and just BREATHE. You'd be amazed at how well that helps you in all situations :)

i know exactly what your going through my son is 8 adhd i dont think its bipolor but yeah take him to the doctor see if he needs diffrent meds or if the one he is taking are making him feel the way he does and about patience its hard to get but find time to yourself even if it little every little bit helps read a book take a jog write a journal find what intrest you and when my son is behaving that way i just grab ahim and hold him it calms him down i tell hom how much io love him or find somthing for the both of you to do that will amke him usre a lot of energy up ive said somehow we need to keep it together because we are the only ones that can handle them now one knows what we go through so we have to be strong for them and god will help us along the way good luck and hope it works out feel free to write me i dont know much because every kid is diffrent but maybe i can give you some advice taht would be helpfull take care and wish you the best

Mrs. Bender,

I see myself in your little boy when I was his age. My mom used to tell me that I was manipulative too. I was also very caring and compassionate.

As far as patience and understanding, I'm probably not the best one to give advice on patience. LOL. I think I can help with understanding.

If you can, try to see things through his eyes. Maybe he is crying out for attention. Are you overdisciplining him? Are you giving him positive feedback?

I hope that I am not hurting your feelings. I hope you're not at a stage where you feel that you are a bad parent. I give you a lot of credit for reaching out like you have.

Kids in general need attention. Some kids,like me, need a lot of attention. Unfortunately, I didn't receive a lot of emotional attention.

I hope you can realize that you have an oppurtunity to really get to know your son through this. You have an oppurtunity to show him how much his mom loves him. I'm not suggesting that discipline should be eliminated. I know that for me, I felt like I was getting disciplined constantly. I can remember expecting to hear that I had done something wrong.

I hope I have helped you. Take care.
Jon

Is he on medication? If so have they tried increasing it.. My sons Dr had to combine medications, and it seems to have helped.. I would love to compare stories.. Let me know if you want to chat