ask him why he does better with his dad

how long has your son been on the meds? Maybe the meds need a little bit longer to work in his system. Now as far as him not being hyper on the meds when he's with his dad, is that cause the environment is calmer, more settled? Is your home really busy, hectic or whatever? I don't mean to sound like i'm blaming you for his hyperness cause it's deffinately not your fault. I'm just trying to figure out why your son is like this

Well it is usually just him, his dad, and his sister when they are at his dads. So it is quite a lot. So they get bored. Now here at home they have way to much to do and he gets over whelmed with what to do. Maybe that is why he gets so hyper.I am not sure why he is like that here and different at his dads.

I have a 6yr old who I believe is ADHD and I am doing it without the meds. His father is gone. A situation in our life that we will over come, but I can say we have the same issues. I almost feel like he is taking his frustrations out on me for his daddy being gone. When we visit his daddy he is calm and hardly gets hyper. As soon as we get home he goes through all these mood changes and retaliates to anything I tell and will not calm down for about a week. I am not a doctor, but if your ex says he does fine on them I would take that information and think it is just a emotional roller coaster for him. I think you may need to take him out depending on what time he gets back from your ex and try and do something special. Even if it is for a ten minutes to a half hour out of the home. A walk, bike ride or just throwing a ball back and forth in front of the house. This may aleveate some of the hyperness that may be built up due to the fact daddy is not at this home. I also think you may need to look into his diet. His diet may be causing his hyperness as well. I know it did for my son and I have changed it tremendously and that has helped. Something to think about as well. Well I hope something here may be of some help to you. Good Luck!

I have gone through this for years. I don't know if your situation is anything like mine, but I feel complelled to share, because this hits a nerve in me.

My daughter was always "better at her dads" so much so, dad insisted that she did not need the meds. He said "I believe ADHD is a ficticious diorder and the meds make her a zombie." Well we just went to court because he was standing in the way of her getting help. In the end he was lying, she was not better with him. He would never tell me that. When her meds weren't working he would question me about increasing mg's. When she was with him he wouldn't even give them to her. He took it upon himself to butcher her 504 to practically nothing, behind my back. He always tried to convince me that the doctors and myself were "quacks". Now I have the papers signed by the judge that he has to follow doctors orders when it comes to her disorder. Because I had a new ADHD evaluation sitting in front of him, that he participated in. To the psychologist he admitted, she was the same way with him as she was with me. You know your child, maybe there is something else going on here.

RosieE, first I ask you, is his responses negative and how long has he been on them? Secondly, you have to remember that meds are an adjunct to everything else. They will not get rid of his ADHD, they will help in focus better and help with managiblity. Lastly, you have to take into consideration the stimulus' in the environment he is in at the time. If he is doing something he is excited about, he is obviously going to put more effort in to it. Depending on how long he has been on the dose will be a factor on whether or not you need to increase. My son was on 18mg for only amonth, we had to increase his dose - but he also had some behavior issue going on. I hope this helps you. Sincerely
Pricia

Thank you all for the advice. About a week ago I had them increase his dosage to 27mgrs. So far it is working. The doctor told me that his body adjusted to the medicine and that once it does that sometimes it stops working. He recommended to put him on a higher dose. So we did. I guess we will see if it works better for him on this new dosage. Thanks to all of you for the support and understanding. Please feel free to contact me with more information. It always helps to know more.