As a parent I would go over her head an talk to someone just incase she did do this in spite! I understand they have alot of responsibality with alot of students but If I was a teacher that would be the first thing I thought of. (who can have it and who can't) With my daughters teacher, she sends home a letter right away in the beggining of the school year letting parents know if another student is allergic or simply just can not have a certain food or sweet.

I personally would arrange a meeting with the principal and the teacher and explain to the principal that you've tried informing the teacher of the rule you have with no chocolate, but there are incidents that the teacher still gives it to him! Tell the principal everything that you have tried explaining to this teacher, even bring up the e-mails that you and the teacher have sent back and forth! I would do all of this in front of the teacher so then the teacher knows that you mean business, and hopefully the teacher will realize that this situation can not be taken lightly...good luck to you

I would recomment you talk to the teacher again out of courtesy if nothing else. Perhaps she has a teacher's aid or a parent volunteer in the class that day and didn't realize the candy bag was placed in your son's backpack. There could be a dozen reasons for the mishap other than spite. I do try to give the teachers the benefit of the doubt and many times it has turned out to be an oversight that I have had myself at times.
It seems that she is trying because she sent you an email telling you about the M&Ms.
I can imagine how frustrating it is when your son is given these things after you asked otherwise. Maybe you can ask her to not reward any of the children with candy. As a parent of an ADHD son and non-ADHD son, I would rather them be rewarded with things other than junk. I have found that trinkets like pencil erasers, cheap party favors, pencils, stickers, etc work just as well for rewards and aren't really any more expensive than candy. Maybe you can offer to donate a few items to get her started.
If that doesn't work, I would then talk to the principle.
Whatever you decide to to, i hope it works out for you!

How maddening! I would be furious and I think you have every right to go over her head. If a child had an allergy to peanuts and she gave him a peanut butter sandwich, parents would be furious. Same thing as I'm concerned!

I agree with Dapearces - to give her the benefit of the doubt (though I know how annoying this must be for you) I think it would be best if you spoke to her again, endeavouring to be as calm as possible and saying that it is possibly difficult to understand (sigh)....and telling her what happened,but again, giving her the benefit of the doubt that she just did something silly and was thoughtless rather than meaning to be spiteful. If things then dont improve, you could go to the principal...take care...tough for you...

At my child's school, we have to sign a permission slip for everything, including participating in classrooms snacks. Go to the teacher again with a letter, and go to the school nurse also presenting them with a letter saying your child cannot have any snacks unless provided by you or okay'd by you. Document it.

This is a mater of beign responsible. this teacher is giving your kid something that is Harmfull to him. He has an alergy to this, and it can do harm to him. He may get into fights, paranoid, and cause really bad situations.

If this teacher had a kid allergic to peanuts, then what... she gives them peanuts and the kid dies?

Dont deal with this fucking stupid teacher. What a fucking peace of shit. Deal with her supervisory, and if that doesn't happen goto the school super intendant. And if that doesn't fix the issue, go to a lawyer.

You may also request the school to remove your child from public school and place him in a private school at their cost. This was just passed in the supreme court, and due to the fact that your school cant provide the necessary services needed for your child they must provide a school that will. Which happens to be the private school you decide will be best for your kid.

Man, I fucking hate teachers that do shitty ass jobs, yet their union protects them like their something special. If they cant not give a kid chocolate, then they have serous incompetence.

I guess your getting a bit of the anger that I feel towards public school beign that I was diagnosed at age 3 with a learning disability, at 7 diagnosed with ADD, and later with depression...

The shit I heard from these teachers... everything from; I dont beleive AA is the issue, I beleive you dont punish your child enough... and in some cases teachers refusing to follow doctor mandated special education requirements placed on them. WoW.

Then the Bullying started... and it wouldn't stop... I know now that its ok for your mom to get involved, because if you make it known, their will not be any mention of this involvement in the children's school life. These are private meetings talking about private things, and anyone who violates that privacy can be in big shit. So as a parent never be afraid to get involved... do so behind closed doors, and ensure your kid that his classmates wont know about it or even expect anything.

Also if or when bulling starts. Put an end to it. If the school can not stop harassment, again request private education or sue the shit out of them for harassment. And YES the school is responsible for the harassment of fellow classmates, just like at your job, your employer is responsible for their employees and any harassment that may occur.

I cant say this enough... GET MORE INVOLVED... never think your NOT involved enough... there is no such thing.

If this were some young babysitter or something, that's one thing... this is supposed to be a professional teacher. There is no "oops" here. There's no allowance for the sort of irresponsibility and carelessness that has resulted in these things happening.

After spending K thru 4 in public school, then 5th and 6th in private school, and finally being homeschooled for the sake of my own sanity and well-being, I can honestly say this: you won't get anywhere till you go to the principal and, if you have to, the school board. This isn't just a case of "oopsie, darn!" It's your child's health and well-being that's at stake and this teacher has no right to put you or your child at risk for anything.

You pay these people for the privilege of giving them your childrens' futures... there's no way on earth they should be allowed to steamroll your kid's special needs for any reason. Hold their feet to the fire and make as big a stink as you need to in order to get their attention and put an end to this teacher's simple refusal to pay attention.