Mom on the edge,

The only advice I have for you is to keep it up. Make sure you stick to your guns no matter what. What I do with my 8 year old is pick her up put her in her room and tell her she can come out when she is done throwing a fit untill then she needs tso stay in her room and walk away. If she comes out put her back in. It is very hard I know but if you don't stick to your guns now it will only get harder. good luck and take care

If your daughter is truly ADHD than bipolar is just a biproduct. The things that I think are most important are that you keep her on a strict schedule, make sure she exercises hard for an hour twice a day, look into getting her on some form of medication. Your methods of punishment will not work because we would rather have negative attention than being ignored. If you are not already actively spend time with her and tell her how much you love her. Being ADD is like someone flipping through the channels and finding nothing you like. The brain needs to be stimulated and needs structure. If we do not have these two things we act out, cannot focus, and our impulse control is out the window. She is blessed because you are aware of it at a young age. If you help her now she will really be way ahead in the days to come. Also don't blame yourself and definitely don't blame your daughter or give her negative energy. My prayers and thought are with you. I have ADD and at times it is horrible for my wife and kids. But being ADD has many blessings as well. If you haven't already get yourself a copy of Driven to Distraction and Answers to Distraction written by Dr Hallowell and Dr. Ratey. Both doctors who suffer with ADD and now treat it. Good Luck!

I've tried everything with my son, too. Nothing seemed to work. If you haven't already, find a good doctor that have ample knowlede of ADHD. I will take a few tries maybe, but they will get you child on the right medication. This is what made life bearable for my son, my husband and I. God Bless.

Mom on the edge,
one thing that has worked for me, is when your daughter is in a fit, just grab her and hold her arms and tell her to calm down. She will protest and fight. But in order for her to comply to you, you NEED to calm her down. Then you can talk to her. This has worked everytime and works with my little brother-in-law also. Trust me it's not going to be easy one bit, but you have to calm them down before you can get through to them. Then ask her whats wrong or what the problem is. You'll get to the root of it everytime. I'm trying a homeopathic route with my son. It seems to be working and I got it at an alternative health store. They mainly sell herbal supplements. Its much more natural than pharmaceutical drugs. It's up to you to decide what you want to do with your daughter. Good luck! I wish the best for you and your daughter.

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You must grab her and hold her arms while she's in your lap. Basically hug her and tell her to calm down. What I tell my son is: Calm down and stop your screaming and crying and I'll let go. If he fights and tells me that I'm hurting him, I then tell him: I'm not the one hurting you, you are the one hurting yourself. If you calm down and stop fighting me, I'll let go. Good luck!