I'm sorry you are going through this, i know for our family timeouts do NOT work..cause as soon as we turn our backs he's doing the same thing all over again..We usually lean more toward taking a priviledge away...like hit it where it hurts! Good luck

Hi, well..ok...this is just my opinion...but geez...the child probably already thinks school is a torture zone...and then you take the last few things he likes away...sounds like that could be cause for a meltdown for sure! For my sons, I got the school to give them an open invitation to sit in the principles ofc to cool out. It is like a time out...but they didn't feel like the other kids were always seeing the punishment...but it still got the point across. Might be an option for you...good luck!

it is a catch 52....we tried both ideas and we ended up using a reward systm I gave the scholl tickets and every hour he could earn them for certain good behaviours like tidy up time, pushing in a chair doing one out of two questions ect...and these tickets could not be taken away as earned them for past behaviors Good behaviors....at home set up a chart with his input as to things he would like to earn like 2 tickets earns extra computer or 3 tickets earns a bag of chips or 5 earns extra tv or 10 earn a movie...little steps for little people. Hopefully this will increase not only the teachers awarness of good behavious but it will increase your child's self-esteem.. At first he will want quick rewards and as timegoes on you can help him understand if he saves them he can earn something bigger...My son loved to earn points for new cars...Even if your child earns one praise him and encourage him to maybe gettwo the next day and hopefully over time you adjust according to how things work...We even went a step further after time where he could time helping the teacher or going to the office to get his tickets this makes the office not seem like a bad place all the time...Good-luck I hope i did not ramble if u do not understand ican explain...danielle

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Further expalanation on taking away the tickets if they do take them away he will give up and they need to be flexable in the begining with the time factor maybe every half an hour...even if he has a horrible or rough morning up till half an hour before home he shoulfd be able to keep trying to earn that one ticket ....remember to get them to look for the small things...and no bribery if you.....u will get ....encouragment yesbut....Danielle. :)

What exactly is the behavior? What do they mean by, out of control? I was told by a teacher that my son swinging his legs while sitting at his desk was bad behavior. What exactly is your grandson doing? School is tough enough for these kids, taking away things they enjoy makes it emotionally worse. Why isn't the teacher using redirection?

He sings, hums, moves about in seat, will not stay in lines.
Occasionally will hit another child. I think he is just playing around when he hits not meaning to harm but teacher says it does not matter his motive. He knows better. He is getting some postive notes but still alot of negative. I was again told today that after P.E. he was "out of control" and that time out did not work.
Alot of his worse behavior is after P.E. or library. Any suggestions?

It seems to be the non structured times like my own son ...Children with Add or ADHD have a hard during these times the only thing that worked for me was he was a teacher's helper during these times. Most importantly given a 5 min warning as change tooooo fast can set them offff. They need to know what is happening next for continuity and consistancy. Even at home i had to do this or else all -ell broke loose!!! Good-luck i hope u have patient and understanding teachers this really helps as well :)

It is true what ds95 said, these kids need "instant gratification", my sons psychologist said that the teachers using a program that gives the child a reward at the end of the week if he was good, was too far aware, they are impatient, and need to see something positive almost immediately following the positive behavior. I think you should sit down with the teacher and brainstorm something that might work, and test it, if it needs to be revised, sit down again and change things. Also look at www.schwablearning.com. This is an awesome website for all sorts of learning disorders. It has a lot of information on ADD/ADHD. Take care.

Time outs are a waste of time and have no real effect. Unfortunately, for most kids that I have worked with, removing what they enjoy is the only way to get them to understand that their behavior is inappropriate. Good luck.

awsome websight thanks

great site!! Does anyone know of the Canadian equivelent?

That website should be: www.schwablearning.org. Sorry about that.

Perhaps he is worse after PE due to overstimulation. Worse after Library due to the "be quiet" while there rule. It is had for non-ADHD kids to sit still, be quiet, listen for the 6-7 hours they are in school. For ADHD kid, it is the longest ever.
Perhaps they need to allow your grandson some "free" time every hour or two, to expel some energy, TALK, de-stress. Does he have an IEP?

Reply to #13 i agree children need an avenue out to burn their energy....Have a nice day.

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With my son at school if he shows good behavior during set times, they have a school counselor come get him during a certain time of the day to take him outside or in the pe gym and let him run around. Just to get that energy out. They also take him im the mornings out with the 1st graders for their brain developement skills they do in the school gym. Exercises like walk through a rope ladder on the floor, twirling their arms in a circular motion....this way it gets his brain working and focusing.....so far...it seems to help a LITTLE! In his classroom they have also marked off his desk on the floor with making tape. He can't go outside that box. He can stand at his desk to do his work as long as he gets it done. They call the box on the floor a batters box since he likes baseball. Maybe associate the things he likes with certain behaviors. My son loves sports, so they incorporate sports with their means of helping him. Its only been in effect for less then a month so hopefully it will help.