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ADHD or just needs to nock it off?

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Is it my husband untreated ADHD that causes him to not have his piorities straight? Leaves me feeling unimportant? Causes him to say he'll be there at this time and shows up two hours later? Wants to be out with the guys all the time? Insted of with his family at home? Is this why he says he understands what I want and agrees its only right but is a lot of talk with no action?
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Exactly. However, you can't attribute it all to ADHD, but the tardiness factor and the procrastination (talk with no action) is a very common trait of people with ADHD. I am definitely one of those people who is constantly late and procrastinates alot. The trick is, tell him to show up at least an hour earlier than he is supposed to, and then he will be more on time. And with the procrastination? I'm still working on that one myself. But big schedules on the fridge, daily To-Do list's and routine definitely help.

Good luck and sit down with your husband and talk to him about these things and how they are affecting you. Maybe counseling is an option.
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Oh yes! They do tend to make you feel unimportant don't they?! That is a very common thing with us spouses of add/ADHD er's. The follow through thing is a major issue too. Mine's biggest problem is the finances. It's not that the money is not there. It's just that he puts it in the wrong place at the wrong time. I will take over the finances and things will be great, but then he becomes resentful when I do! So, I give him back the finances after he pouts long enough, then he screws them up again. This last time was a doozy, so I put my foot down! I told him that I could not live like this anymore. I am by no means a materialistic person, but I do need stability for the benefit of my children. He genuinely does not do anything out of malice and he is a good person, but his "wires" just don't connect sometimes. Now, about the going out with the guys thing...That just means he needs to grow the heck up! Especially since you guys have children. ADHD is a reason for a lot of things, but it is NOT an EXCUSE. I just started a support group for individuals in a marriage or relationship with ADHD individuals. I hope you will try to participate and hopefully give some others your perspective. You are not alone. I am at my wits end too. Take care of yourself,
Malaena
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OMG! I just read your profile. He smokes pot!!!! What the heck?!! Be very careful... A lot of people who are Bipolar are mistakenly diagnosed with ADHD at first. The B.P. individuals are notorious for self-medicating with M.J.. I have 2 brothers that are B.P. and they both used M.J. to self medicate.
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Wish I could give you some advice but I'm just learning...but hugs to you
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