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This is what love is like in the real world

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I'm young and have been very sheltered and I think my thought process about relationships (guy/girl or just friends) have been getting reshaped. I've learned you can't be too trusting. I dont really get noticed by guys but I finally met someone who had my type of personality. One night he was basically mauling me and crossed the line completely by forcing himself on me (in that way). I was a virgin. I still count myself as one but I feel damaged and not the same. I think it's mostly mental. Especially because later after I forgave hime because he said he was sorry, I found out that he was sleeping with a mutual friend and after she left him he forced himself on me. I dont know. I'm rambling. But I guess this has taught me one of many life lessons and I'm tryin to focus on the learning and growing aspect of this than on what happened. Does this make sense?
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I think that completely makes sense. If you dwell on what happened it leads to unnessecary feelings-depression, anger. If you look at it as a lesson you'll see what "warning" signs to look for the next time youre in a position like that. stay strong!
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What he did was not right in any way. if he forced himself on you against your will it's called rape. That should not be sugar coated in anyway. I applaud you for forgiving him, but this is no form of real love. I hope one day you will meet a guy who will show you what a real man looks like. A man that has respect for women and doesn't let his urges control him. I'm really sorry you had to go through this, I can only imagine the pain you must have gone through.
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