My problem is simple yet complicated, My wife is going through menopause and the result is that she has totally lost her sexual desire. At least that is what she is telling me. It has been happening for the last 5 years. For the first four she would try and it was not a good experience as I could tell she was just faking the desire. Now she dosen't even try. It has been over a year now.. She will not discuss the subject , will not go to councelling or even discuss it with her doctor who is also a woman. I know this is a big problem for women and I know that I should just suck it up, be a man and suffer. But that is esier said than done. I feel that I have three choices. One, just go out and have an affair. Two, use porn and materbation to relieve myself or three commit to a life of Celibacy. One and two seem to be the same thing, cheating on my wife which I am very much against. So what I am asking you people is how does one change from a life where sex is a normal part of life to a life where it is not . Even more important how do I convince my mind that I just don't need it and can enjoy life with out it. Kind of like quiting smoking. How do you stop the cravings and get on with life without sex. I should tell you that I am not a very religious person and the fear of God and saying things like sex is bad or evil is just not going to convince me to stop having these feelings. I need more concrete methods to change my thoughts. Help, I am going crazy and I do not want to do something that I will regret for the rest of my life.
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