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So this guy that I was sleeping with for six years, just in the summer, yeah I know that's bad, but anyway, he is coming hom in December for a visit. He left in August to go overseas to play basketball and now he's coming back for Christmas. I have recently decided that I NEED to be celibate, but I'm just so nervous about him coming home. One thing that I didn't have a problem doing with him or for him was oral...if I have oral sex, is that going against everything that I'm trying to be?
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well i depends for me yes but that because of the path a choose to follow its what in your heart determines what celibacy is to you
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yes for me oral sex is sex..and if you are trying to abstain from sex..it should be sex of every kind..and it wouldnt be wise to do this for a guy you arent in a relationship anyway..respect yourself wait for marriage or a commitment. God bless
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I couldn't have oral sex and not have the other sex.

Right now, I can't even see this guy, because I know it would lead to sex. I'm honest with myself and I know if I see him, it's on! He's not happy with not seeing me, but I know my limitations. Sweetie, you have to know your limitations. You are worth the wait. You are a gift, a precious gift. A valuable gift. Don't let the wrong person open your package.
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I would explore other means of intimacy - focusing more on your emotional needs than your physical desires. The trick is finding out if he is up to that challenge. I wish you the best.
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