I am not the best role model for this I believe the only thing that would make this easy for me is to save my dates for people who I think have the same values I do about this! in my experience, when they don't, it seems to uphold my values is harder for me when they are not upheld by the other person.

Whether you are 19 or 39, the expectations are the almost the same in the dating-waiting game.

I too, don't mean to lead guys on but I don't want to tell them I'm a virgin either...because to them, it sounds like a challenge or a prize they have to win! Still, communicating your feelings is very important (you don't have to tell him everything!) If he doesn't accept and respect you for this, then move on to the next guy because he most likely won't respect, support or value other things you might want to bring a few months or years into the relationship.

And even though the relationship is about 50/50 give-and-take, don't ever do anything that you makes you feel uncomfortable or goes against your values because when the right guy does come along, you'll be happy you waited! :-)