congratulations! it's so great that you have made this decision on your own and that you realize that it is helping you. :-)

I completely agree. I did not have that as a distraction when I was in college and it made a big difference to me. My sister did not wait and as a consequence had a baby instead of a college career. You need to understand that as far as I am concerned, and I believe this goes for a lot of other women, your resolve and moral perspective makes you quite a catch.

btw. .I stayed off of drugs, alcohol and those nasty frat boys in spite of a serious history of depression. So, I have faith that you can too.

you are so wise at such a young age! don't have regrets about your past...be proud of yourself for your accomplishments now!

"You need to understand that as far as I am concerned, and I believe this goes for a lot of other women, your resolve and moral perspective makes you quite a catch."

Agreed. :-)

Hey, good on you, a day staying off alcohol, drugs and sex is could not have been easy, but 365+ days? That is certainly a great achievement and something worth being proud off! :-)

I have no doubts there are girls out there who have the same beliefs as you, I just wish that there were more guys out there like you...but I remain hopeful.

No, it does work that way, but if you did not have that experience, you probably would not be able to appreciate your second chance to start anew...I have a 'no regrets' policy, and you should adopt it too! :-)

Yeah... Same here, dude. I still have a hard time just talking to women after our seperation a year ago. I was a virgin when I married her. Now, with the divorce still pending, in my heart I feel that I have to wait until I'm remarried for intercourse. I'm not really looking, either, although I have signed up for a dating site just to see what's out there. I still think it's wrong to fornicate. I'm a Christian, and thankfully the divorce is biblicly justified, so I still have the possibility of finding the actual right woman after all.

It's very difficult for me, being a sailor and having all of my aquaintances talking about it all the time and trying to 'set me up' at every port we make. I can't let myself go because of my old-world values. I still believe in the sanctity of the marriage bed.

Cap'n Ish

Captain Ish, wow. That is a whole other "culture" I have never been exposed to, but you do hear about that side of it alot. It must be really difficult to identify with anyone else on that issue. And I'm sorry to hear your marriage didn't work out. That's always sad to hear.

Something happened and I started to believe in God again. I started going to church and joined a abstinent class for young women. For me, it is all about support. I need to surround myself with positive people, but people that can relate to my "sin" "addiction" etc. They helped me admit there was a problem. I had too much pride. Still do, it is a daily battle. So really, be thankful for your defeat. It helped you get where you are now, wanting to wait. that is my experience. forgive yourself so that others can forgive themselves. shame is a useless emotion. guilt is constructive, it helps you learn. I also stopped drinking.

Goin' off the coffee, ok, now you've gone too far! That's just crazy! LOL

But seriously. Even in the most devoted and passionate relationships, sex only makes up a small percentage. I look forward to finding that person I want to be with ALL the time and grow old with. Don't fret about the past. Nothing to regret if you were able to take insight and better know yourself and your priorities.

Good for you! This is a great decision. I know that you may not be comfortable hearing this, but a relationship will Jesus Christ also helps with this and life in general. It's not what pple think. He loves us all so much.