Abstinence & Celibacy Support Group
The pressures of sex from peers, the media and culture can be overwhelming, but you are in total control of your body and celibacy is a choice that many are making. Find sanctuary with people who are choosing to abstain without fear of judgment.
I haven't had sex not because I don't believe in sex before marriage or anything, it's always been a choice, I just haven't found the right person yet. I don't want my virginity to be taken, I want to give it to someone who seems right at the time, and who I can say with some amount of confidence will always be in my life - even if it's not romantically. I want it to be a good memory, and not come to hate the person and regret that it was them.
Recently i've thought I found that person, but my head still had some doubts so I've held out. Then 10 days ago my friend was struck and killed by a tractor trailer, and i've started to reconsider a lot of things, this being one of them. You never know what tomorrow will bring, if I'll still be here, if the amazing guy i've found will stil be here. If something happened to me tomorrow I would have gone my entire life without knowing what it is to be with someone i truely care about, and who truely cares about me.... and this isn't an experience I want to miss out on in life.
Do I take this oportunity with a truly amazing guy even tho I have some doubts, or do I continue to wait for it to be absolutely everything I want? My heart is saying go for it but my head is holding me back.
Recently i've thought I found that person, but my head still had some doubts so I've held out. Then 10 days ago my friend was struck and killed by a tractor trailer, and i've started to reconsider a lot of things, this being one of them. You never know what tomorrow will bring, if I'll still be here, if the amazing guy i've found will stil be here. If something happened to me tomorrow I would have gone my entire life without knowing what it is to be with someone i truely care about, and who truely cares about me.... and this isn't an experience I want to miss out on in life.
Do I take this oportunity with a truly amazing guy even tho I have some doubts, or do I continue to wait for it to be absolutely everything I want? My heart is saying go for it but my head is holding me back.
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If you have doubts its not the time. I've always been in the hold out for true love catagory.
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Wow, I can really relate to this..my heart and mind are at a constant battle when it comes to when I should have sex. I truly believe I have found the right guy and have been w/ him for almost 4 yrs..yet I still "hold out" b/c of that little voice in the back of my head. I am reall sorry to hear about your friend and those deep losses of people so close to us can give us those feelings of "you never know what tomorrow will bring", making you want to jump in and just go for it. It's a really tough call..but if you feel as though you are comfortable enough with yourself AND this new guy, then I say just go for it. But if you feel like you are rushing into it just because you think you might be "running out of time"..then I would say, now is not the time. You want to have sex b/c YOU are ready, not because someone is ready for you or you feel like you will never get the chance..the chance will always be there waiting for you. Hoped this helped..good luck! ;o)
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
