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They might be ill - though I am not totally convinced that is the full story - but they have their groups which we are not allowed to join and I think that it is only fair that they do not come and bother us.
Yes, they will be banned. And if there is anything said people - they call us "grumps" or "bigs" - will go and join their groups. What is good enough for them is good enough for us.
MPD: Multiple Personality Disorder
Many psychiatrists believe that MPD is non-existant or is so rare that they are not likely to ever encounter the condition in a patient under their care.
Many people confuse MPD with the more common 'Dissociative Identity Disorder'.
DID: Dissociative Personality Disorder is the actual condition to which many people refer when they say MPD. The two conditions are often confused.
No one has the right to abuse another person, regardless of what condition the abuser claims to have. If someone is abusing you or other members of your group, you have the right to ban that person from the group and remove them from your friends list, and no explanations or apologies are necessary.
When I encounter a person who is abusive, I simply ban that person from my groups and remove them from my friends list. I do not explain to that person what I am doing or why I am doing it. I do not further engage the individual or their supporters if they have any. Life is simply too short and too precious to get involved in protracted arguments and heated debates with people who are manipulative, lying, dishonest, destructive, gossip-prone, out to get someone, or otherwise unworthy of my time and energy. I do them no disservice in parting company with them - they can find other groups to join, or start their own, and they can find new friends. Fortunately, such people are few and far between.
It is important to understand that just because someone claims to have a disorder or condition does not mean they actually have the claimed condition. It is even more important to understand that just because someone has a disorder or condition does not give that person the right to abuse others - for them to believe so constitutes a moral (and possibly legal) failing on their part.
Remember, you built your group from the beginning to the present, and you put a lot of yourself into it. Any person who would destroy your group does not belong. Bid them farewell, and get on with the building up of your group.
The other two were something I would not wish on any one, not any one.
One was in chat, just the two of us in a xat room (I can't use the DS room - never have been able to access), and chatting quite normally when she started swearing and calling me all the nasty things under the sun and then talking in some sort of code (not littles speak - I have read that - it was not like that) and in the end I felt so much evil I just closed the room (it was my room). She apologised later but has never admitted (at least to me) that it was some sort of multi, alter or possession.
The second one was when a few people were being attacked by some troll(s) - a friend of mine and one of her friends - and the troll was posting in the member groups with threats and foul language threatening to kill the families etc. Then one member (not a troll) turned on me and threatened me becasue in her mind I had disrespected her cyber brother (which I hadn't and he confirmed that). She came back next day and apologised which I accepted. It was only later I found out that it was a multi and one of her others had been talking to me. Once I found out I realised this could happen again, that she could bring it into the groups so I removed her from my list and banned her to protect the group. No matter if you are one person in one body or like to think and believe you are 200 hundred YOU are responsible for what you do and we should be able to protect our groups as we see fit.
Next they will be telling us that groups which are for women only (of men only) have to accept member of the opposite sex. Come that day I will seriously have to thinnk about leaving DS - too much like Orwell's 1984 for my liking.
I have three members banned in my group now for no good reason.They were banned by an administrator who discriminated on age while I was away sick.She is no longer in my group.If I unban them then I open up the can of worms about why they were banned to start with.I have no good answer for that.
We have the the ban button.In my group we had a legitimate troll who should have been and was banned.There are times for it.There are also times when deleting someone hurts.Maybe if our lists were called contact lists and not friends lists,the sting wouldn't be as bad?
I see many other people creating identities to promote their causes.To me this is as bad as alters.If everyone did this,we'd never know that any of the people here were real.We all know these identities are not real.Not sure if the person creating them knows that we see through.
This is the dark side of DS.I try to avoid it.I also don't want to hurt anyone who is here seeking support.Too many times the people who need the site the most are the ones hurt by the negative.They aren't able to cope and leave.Many good people have left DS this past year.I just think we need to be very careful.
Beaumont...Your post is excellent. I am glad you brought up the rarety of this disease. I will agree that even as rare as it is there is no surer place to incounter it than here on DS. But I think too that a lot of people pretend to have this just to cause trouble. And the bottom line is: What are we to do.
Raggy, quiet simply if this person is being harmful to the group I believe they should be banned. If this person does not need to be in the group (i.e.your military example) then they need to be removed. Why are you starting the group? Keeping your purpose in mind, will it be jepordized by leaving this person in the group?
One other thought, the group in which the DID is in: If that group is causing this persons alter to come out, then maybe that group is not healthy for that person....another reason they should be removed.
I have made it sound like if a person has DID they should be removed Period. Not so. If they are not causing trouble to others OR even themselves, then by all means they should stay.
Only my opinion
~dixie
The people I was talking about have now left DS completely - at least under the names that they were using at that time, but they did come into your group where they attacked one of the members, they also came to one of mine and did the same thing there, to the same member and then myself as well because I defended her.
But as they have done this before,left, and then returned under a different name/s it is something that needs to be watched for by those who were the subject of their attacks in the past.