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rebeljen 
12:45pm, August 9, 2008
HE PLEAD GUILTY
The drunk driver who hit us in June and killed my husband plead guilty to 1 charge of driving under the influence resulting in death. YEAH!!! That means this part of the nightmare is almost over. Only 2 more things I have to do.
1--I have to meet with the victim's advocate's office of the district attorney before October to write my victim's impact statement.
2--I have to appear before the judge and the drunk driver at the sentencing on October 11th before the judgement and sentencing is imposed.
The district attorney's office is asking for a sentence of 15 years which means that he will be eligible for parole in 6-8 years. At that time he will be deported by the INS out of the country. I've been asked all day if I think that's fair and how I think about it and here's my answer. I don't know how to feel about it right now. Maybe I'm just at peace with it or rationalizing it because this man has to live the rest of his life with the knowledge that his bad choices and poor judgement killed my husband. A heavy burden to bear if you ask me. And for a young man, a 15 year sentence is a huge sentence for any crime. My son is 15 1/2 and if he ever committed a crime of this magnitude, 15 years would seem like an eternity for us both.
I do not hate this man. Maybe I'm not at that stage in my own grieving but I just don't. Maybe I'm just crazy. I'd like to think that my God has given me the strength to get through this situation. Hate is a terrible emotion that can overtake you and I'm not going to let it get the best of me and ruin my life. It can cause physical and mental illness and ruin perfectly good relationships. The bible says we were all created in God's image regardless of our own personal differences and I'd like to think that there is good on us all, somewhere. And no one is beyond our forgiveness. I'm giving this situation to God and to the presiding judge to handle and I'm trusting that whatever the outcome, it will be enough.
Now, I know I'm probably rambling on to some of you, but that is what I do!!! Or maybe I'm just NUTS!!! But thanks anyway to reading the ramblings of a good person in a bad situation. I love you all!!! Jenifer
Life is too short to waste so spend every minute wisely.
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I am happy that part of your nightmare is over. I will be praying for you on October 11th that you will find the strength that you will need to face the man that took your husbands life. I know it will not be easy. If you need to talk I am here.
Tammy
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