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abfab 
2:20pm, October 12, 2009
Well this is it.......my hair is starting to fall out. Im not sure how I feel, I cried and I felt sorry for myself. Its wierd...it doesnt even hurt if you pull it, just kind off slips out.
I know I have my wig and I have it cut nicely...and I have just bought several headscarves and bandana's online, longer ones, shorter ones, plain ones and patterned....hey, guess I have a HUGE selection......lol
My bro and sis in law are away on Hols until next Sunday and its a public holiday here today...everyone is out watching the parades...and Im sitting here crying. HOW PATHETIC IS THAT!
Y'all know me, I will get over this temporary blip...but right now, Im gonna cry......
Laters
xx
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Its ok to cry as you are suffering a loss and its an appropriate feeling to grieve. Hugs.
mianutzy
That kind of puts things in perspective for Mia....how daft is that!!! Grieving for hair loss....lol Thanks chick.....xx
abfab
the head scarves and such will be handy, because wigs can be scratchy and too hot sometimes. My grandmother had a wig when she got cancer and choose not to wear it and wore the head scarves and such instead.
mianutzy
Well,Abfab.I know it is sad.We are so connected to society and our manes. I feel teary eyed just getting my hair cut and in the winter my hair likes to fall out by the handfuls(do not know why). I hear your hair will grow back different shade then your original and can be curly ect.
We have a friend who is going through all this with his brain tumor. Feeling bad for you. Are your parents still in your life?
DrowningSusan
Go ahead and cry - I agree that it is a loss and our hair is also a part of our self-image - but also remember the hair falls out because the chemo kills fast growing cells. Hair cells and cancer cells grow quickly so that means something's working. I only had carboplatin because I was so sick and so didn't lose my hair but at that stage of the game I didn't care what happened as long as I survived. Best wishes!
IUPUI
My parents have been dead since 1986 (mother...breast cancer) and 1990 (father...bowel cancer).....in a way, Im glad as I wouldnt want them to see me going through this. I have had my cry and I am ok now.....SO daft, its only bloody hair and it will grow again!! And yes you are right IUP.....this NEEDS to happen for me to get better again. Thank you for your support. xx
abfab
Yes, my mom went through this too. :(
Shave your head and tell everyone you're a punk rock hipster?
Scrooched
Hi there, I shaved my head right after my first infusion and I cried many tears, but today, all of my hair has returned--yours will too. I didn't wear the wig I bought. It felt fake, and very hot. I wore baseball caps and scarves. People were able to share the experience this way too--I didn't feel nearly so alone. You'll be okay. In fact, you're already there--it's just not as easy some days as others. love and purrs,
Rhoda & Scottie
RhodaM
Im not sure about shaving my head....although I am tempted to go to the hairdressers and get it cut VERY short now, so I can start wearing my wig. I have also ordered several bandana's and scarves online yesterday, so i have a choice. My wig is lovely...but as you say Rhoda, it MAY still feel false to me Hugs, oh....and squidgy hugs to Scottie.....lol
abfab
The dirty deed has been done.....I had my head shaved....Im ok. I obviously hate it as my hair has always been long....but....it was necessary for me to do this to remain in control. xx
abfab
Good for you!!.....It does sound best to get pro-active in any way possible....Your attitude will be your saving grace..Ever since i met you here...I've never come across someone with such a great sense of humour..and who has very real inner strength...And those qualities you have, combined..will see you right through to the finishing line..where all this will then be behind you...and when you will be fully well again....
I'm always thinking about you..Even though I've been lousy at getting in touch..(Sorry sorry sorry!!!)..But.I am sure all will be well.....because you're the best!!...and you deserve the best!!...Thinking of you!! BIG hugs & Love always!! xx
vonniedisley
Its ok to cry sometimes hun....for things we lose & miss...hugs.....you are strong girl & will get through this....I heard bandanas are so in this year....go girl & you do what you need to do for YOU as you tell me so often.....love to you xx
geordielady
Good for you!! and, your right, having taken the action of shaving your head puts you in the driver's seat again. all of this will pass! hang-in. everyone here loves you and is here for you. if you want me to post a pic of myself in the baseball cap so you can "see" you're not alone, let me know.
love and purrs, Rhoda & Scottie
RhodaM
and this shows me more about your post ... I see you fighting this and winning
Bistro
Hey abfab.,....Ok..,.so the hair is gone...Your have every right to scream , cry, vent...go for it hun!...Yes..you have the diesease,,,,,but it will NEVER have you!!!!!!!!!! ...Now go find more wigs in all hair colors and shapes and styles...even do extensions...beading...whatever you want to try!...YOU can get through this....You are strong enough to get through this. I know I am not on your friends list....But I want you to be ok.....I am sending many blessings to you and many healing angels...Please keep you chin up hon,,,,,1 day at a time...big hugs lady!
Haiku