Journal Entry for June 23, 2009
June 23, 2009 8:48pm
As usual alots happened... where to even start....
My last entry was the day Samatha took off, she never varied from her story that she …
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About Me
Chris333
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About Me
My journal and groups say it.
My journal and groups say it.
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Interests
I enjoy spending time with my girls, cooking, messing around on the computer, and finding pockets of quiet time to read
I enjoy spending time with my girls, cooking, messing around on the computer, and finding pockets of
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Journal Entry for June 9, 2009
June 9, 2009 2:14pm
Been forever, lifes been busy... Ash's graduation went off with a hitch... yes I meant with, gratefully not for Ash so much as me and mom.... …
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Journal Entry for May 18, 2009
May 18, 2009 8:37pm
Is this month over yet? oh right.. that'd be a no... still have to... hmm, lets see... finish power washing the house, sides and front including …
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Journal Entry for May 13, 2009
May 13, 2009 8:14pm
it's been a minute, quick entry....
just busy, doing things non-stop, enough so I ran down my imune system and actually got sick... that …
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Journal Entry for May 7, 2009
May 7, 2009 5:53am
Murphy found me again...
Monday - idiot boy radios to tell me he's getting the girls Friday after school for a dentist appointment... ok, …
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Thanks,,,,he is such a sweetie....everyone is well...hubby is still out of work...been 13 months now...he is looking into getting another Apprenticeship as an Electrician....right now his unemployment benefits ran out so we are on social assistance right now...tough times but happy and hanging in there...how are you doing?
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Miss You
Hi Chris....been thinking about you and wondering how things have been for you...hope all is well!
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My son does not have an account on DS. Thank goodness. I would hate to think he would think I talk about him behind his back, but we all need a safe place to vent and get support. I am going to look into getting him into some kind of support group of kids who are also adoptees. One place he can talk to other kids and feel "normal." I think it would help him. It is so hard to say. Is the adoption or the ADHD? I have a tendency to think the ADHD is more the issue right now and more of our focus. I think this is where the anger and lack of control comes from, but do not want to dismiss healing his deeper issues due to adoption, and more importantly his abuse and neglect as an infant and toddler. He won't admit he has abandonment issues but I am sue he does. Are you and your family getting help of any kind? Up until recently, I would have said that the counseling we were going to was a waste of time. But I have my hopes up with this new one. I pray a lot also. Take care! Thanks always for thinking of me! Big hugs!
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Little Love
Thank you Chris!! Hard to believe she is turning 3 already, time flies by so quick!! I sent a message to your inbox too. :o)
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David is having huge anger issues and sometimes can't control himself. Getting scary as he is now 5' and 12 years old. But deep down, still a great kid with a big heart. New counselor just seems to have connected. So praying! Rough spots- if I recall, big issues with daughter? Anyway, have things improved any?
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Close Breakups & Divorce
Married Aug '91, divorced Nov '08. Still regular communication because of our daughters
Treatments
- Couples Counseling Not Working
- We tried years ago but he really never thought he had any problems so there never was a two way street for change
- Forgiveness Working / Worked
- I attempt this one daily and I am divorced but for the kids I have to continue to try
- Leave Not Working
- I left for about a month 5 years ago...maybe it helped for a minute but here I am anyway
- Love Working / Worked
- My love for the children that the ill-fated marriage produced was a saving grace... not to say I didn't screw up and say things in front of them I shouldn't have but if it weren't for them I have wondered how bitter I would have ended up
- Pets Working / Worked
- Always have had dogs and for any bad situation they've been a blessing
- Reading Somewhat Helpful
- Drowned myself in them, if I was reading I had no time to over analyze the situation - but then I also wasn't dealing with it either
- Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked
- I have a few friends that I spoke to and when I did open my ears and listen they have been very helpful
- Talking Working / Worked
- Helped a ton! Basically let me know I'm not as crazy as I was feeling
- Time Working / Worked
- Time has made the separation much easier
Close Parenting Teenagers (12-18)
2 girls one just turned 18 and the other will be 15 in a month. I've been overly fortunate with the first one and the other I believe much stems from the 'just be smarter than everyone around her' syndrome. Crossing my fingers that things don't truly get bad where the lying to me about silly things turns into lying about sneaking out of the house etc... attempting to keep my eyes open to all the possibilities... I know what I was like at her age
Open Adoption
I was adopted when I was a baby - didn't find out til I was 15
Treatments
- Forgiveness Working / Worked
- Was a hard blow at that age, I know my maternal bio-side...though we are not in contact I have no hard feelings anymore
Open Financial Challenges
Built a business, ex ran into ground. Things are near as tough as they were when we separated but who doesn't have it tough right now?
Treatments
- Budgeting Working / Worked
- Cut Up Credit Cards Working / Worked
- haven't had a card since ex and I split, doubt I'll ever have one again, not a necessity in my much simpler life.
- Earn Money Working / Worked
- after the split and raising 2 girls with little to no help from the ex I was forced to find a job close to home because of no vehicle, I found a fast food job and from there moved on.
- Filing for Bankruptcy Somewhat Helpful
- had to file at 18 because of his spending habits (should have been a red flag eh?) - obviously didn't work since he's now the ex
Open Child Support & Custody
Struggling with ex on the fact that he just doesn't get to have fun with the kids but also need to help with raising them - I've got no treatments here, it was that was in '05 it's still that way today.
Open Healthy Relationships
I have been graced with finding someone - he and I are so much more compatible - he loves the girls like they were his own, does any/everything for them
Treatments
- Patience Working / Worked
- As with any relationship we both have traits that the other could do without. deciding in our lives if any of those were worth leaving the other for came first and now we just have to learn to move at the others pace with learning to change those.
- Talking Working / Worked
- We talk about everything, I don't hold my tongue... not it's not perfect but we seem to have worked through every so far =)
- Writing Working / Worked
- Do to a myriad of issues I have begin putting pen to paper again (fingers to keyboard in word) - it feels great.
Open Single Parenting
Raising two girls with a flighty father. I'm lucky because they are older but it doesn't come without it's own challenges when the other parental figure does things that just go against everyone of your own beliefs
