GlamDemetria

Open Healthy Relationships

I seek a healthy, GODLY relationship with the ONE God has set aside for me; I wait patiently on the Lord. Many people are in a "relationship" but it may be dysfunctional; I don't want that. I am a healthy person emotionally and spiritually so I seek that in someone else. Lord I wait on YOU to bring this to pass.

Treatments

Couples Counseling Somewhat Helpful

I was in premarital counseling with my exbf recently (2007) before we broke up; I think the information they provided was good for any committed couple to reflect upon but ONLY if both parties are dealing with their OWN issues FIRST! I'll leave it at that.

Patience Working / Worked

During my last relationship, I had MUCH patience with his shortcomings. ALL of us have them (including ME) so we must purpose ourselves even before entering relationships that we WILL remember to be patient with others because God is not through with them or US yet! Amen.

Talking Working / Worked

The last relationship I had I can say we did alot of "discussing" of issues: good, bad and ugly, and that did work for the time we were together. But I will add that I only wish to talk with respect and consideration; we lost sight of that towards the end of our relationship (Dec 2007) and I vowed I would not allow another person to talk to me that way again nor would I reciprocate (unkind words, etc).

Writing Working / Worked

Blogging has helped (although so far I've only done it once here on DS smile)...people responded and the interaction and support REALLY helped me sort through my feelings and aided in my healing. I intend to keep writing :-).

Open Vegetarians & Vegans
Type: Other

I attended a Health Conference about 4 yrs ago, and it was the best thing to happen to me at that time in my life, as I've always been health conscious anyway; but that conference educated me. I am a dancer (hip hop/praise/lyrical) so I started focusing on how to feel GOOD through my eating habits. I've never really liked meat most of my life (beef/pork), so these past 4 yrs on rare occasion I do eat small amts of beef/fish/chicken/seafood, but mostly wheat pasta/veggies, so I am a FLEXITARIAN.

Open Breakups & Divorce

*See my journal entry from 12/24/07...tells the entire story* But I will say we are NOT enemies; I had to come to the humbling realization that I was "enabling" him in some of his bad habits/issues instead of "helping" him like I thought I was. I haven't blamed HIM for any of it; I looked at myself; God will help my exbf with HIS issues no need for me to point the finger. He was and still is a close friend of mine despite our breakup (update as of 3/25/08). It took 3 months to get here.

Treatments

Forgiveness Working / Worked

Jesus forgave us so we must forgive others if we wish to live in PEACE on this Earth. I forgave him pretty quickly actually; I refused to be bitter and have him ruin my Christmas 2007. God has rewarded my forgiveness; my exbf and I are friends! Halleluia! (3/25/08)

Leave Working / Worked

Well, he left me on 12/23/07 and actually it was for the best (in a spiritual sense)--still waiting to see how God works it all out. No one knows what the future holds but as for the NEAR future I can say we will not be together; my exbf still has many issues he needs to work out with GOD'S help alone, no one else, not even me.

Love Working / Worked

I love him enough to LET HIM GO (at his request) and not cling to him or beg him to stay with me. That is the ULTIMATE sign of love I've learned through all this. To cling is FEAR and love is not fear, that is an oxymoron! If it's meant for us to reconnect down the road, in God's way and God's timing, we will. If not, again it's God's will not mine as Mary (Jesus' mother) stated in the bible. It took 3 months to get here remember this is still a process for me (3/25/08).

Music Working / Worked

I started blasting gospel music the day after it all happened (12/24/07) and that lifted my spirits. I still play PLENTY of gospel music; also along these lines, PRAISE DANCE (to gospel music) has REALLY helped me. Praise God! (3/25/08)

Pets Working / Worked

My cat Fuzzy Wuzzy offers me solace and comfort more than I ever realized. He's been clingier to me since all this happened; he KNOWS I need his comfort...I love you Fuzz :-).

Reading Too Soon to Tell

I read Christian and inspirational books to keep me encouraged. Right now I am reading "In the Meantime" by Iyanla Vanzant (*highly recommend it it is helping me). I also read the bible and meditate upon God's promises to me, that He will never leave nor forsake me, thank you Lord!

Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked

This has been my BEST help next to God/prayer! Thank you for friends and family who love me. I often go over my best friend's house to "get away" so that I won't feel sorry for myself when I have an "emotional moment". She has ALWAYS been there as I am for her. I often go to my parents house (in the country) to retreat and meditate and get centered. God's angels...that is how I describe my close friends and family.

Support Groups Too Soon to Tell

I am part of an online women's support group (encouragement group). I think it will help because the girl in charge is a friend of mine and a strong woman of faith and an encourager.

Talking Working / Worked

I talk ALL THE TIME via writing and phone and email and talking things out helps me so very much.

Time Working / Worked

TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS but only if we let it and don't try to fight it. I am letting TIME heal me and it is working thank the Lord! (3/25/08