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DAREDUDE 
5:00am, November 5, 2009
Well i found out this weekend that my Dad was just informed that his has 6 to 12 months to live thanks to stage four lung cancer. I am at a loss for words. This man has shown me how to be a man, husband and father. The world is going to be a sad darker place. I don't want to even think of life without him. I know this will destroy my Mom this is her second husband she has lost to Cancer. I am planning on going Home on leave for Christmas.
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Time is always on my mind, and it scares me i won't have enough, i feel there is so much more out there for me to see and do, i just hope i have lefted my mark on this world and can be remember for something besides just being a soldier.
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You are... a friend, father, and husband. You have contributed so much to those close to you. You are not just your job, honey, and you can achieve much, as I am sure you are aware. I think of you often and know what cancer can do. 100% of the female side of my family gets it. My older sister died at 36 from it when I was 17. Two weeks before, one of my uncles died of Lupus, a form of cancer. My grandmother had cancer when she died and my mother has been treated for breast cancer.... the last time I knew, she was still alive but we have not communicated in over 7 years.
I know you have/had many dreams you feel you have to rush to complete but remember, you don't have to make a big mark on the world.. just on those that will carry your memory with them through their lives. Knowing that may give you the peace you need so you can focus on what is most important right now- taking care of yourself and those around you. You're in my thoughts always. RT
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I think you've left an indelible mark on your family, friends and those you've connected with here on DS. I know that I have gained inspiration from your courage and strength and the willingness to fight this cancer. As Nytwolf said, you are so much more than just a soldier who dons a uniform daily and protects his country so that we may remain free. Again, you are an inspiration and a hero to me. Keep up the fight my friend and I will continue to keep you in my prayers. *hugs*
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Don't you dare doubt for even a split second you have not left a mark on this world. You have left a huge painting, not just a mark! You have done so much for so many. I am so proud to know you and call you a friend. You are an amazing wonderful man Kevin! Love ya doll!
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i want to thank you all very much, i just hate having doubt, i feel so weak and small.
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I think we all do at times. Like, how much can one person leave behind? But trust me Kevin. You have touched SO many. I've seen numerous people on here really be amazingly inspired by what you do and who you are. All, just by being you. If you were to leave us tomorrow, this whole site would be grieving, not to mention those who know you in person. You touch so many, you really do. If you dont' believe it, listen to me. Believe in what I and these other ladies have said. We will be strong for you. I believe.
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thank you so much jen
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Kevin, we just met and I think you are a wonderful man, husband, father and friend. I agree with flutterbyfly. Please don't ever doubt yourself. I have to Thank You for serving our Country for our freedom. I have to add to that you have a wicked sence of humor. Keep on fighting. You will always be in my thoughts and prayer.
Well on the 19th of April i will be 5 years with Timmy. I so hope the Docs are wrong. If they are not i have 5 years left.
It is just so scarey. so i have 31 days until then not that i am counting.
It is just so scarey. so i have 31 days until then not that i am counting.UPDATED GOALS
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Progress 55%
Encouragements: 74
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I'm not trying to give false hope, but all I can say is they told my father he wouldn't live 5 years when they found his rare form of cancer. It's been 11... don't give up on yourself and the amazing life you have.
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I admire your strength and courage. I cannot begin to imagine the emotional toll this has taken on you. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong.
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You know - there are new treatments discovered all of the time - maybe they haven't found a treatment that will cure Timmy yet.
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Hey, DAREDUDE: My husband just died of Glioblastoma Multiforme (brain cancer iV). He was active duty FA in Kitzengen, Germany, then later transitioned to the Reserves -- Civil Affairs. He was a PRT Commander in Afghanistan in '02 - 03, but no symptoms until May '08. He suffered a stroke during weekend training. All that led to discovery of brain cancer. His particular GBM was so aggressive and unresponsive to treatment, his oncologist believes his stint as a nuclear weapons officer in Germany (20 years ago), and subsequent exposure to plutonium, could be responsible for his cancer. Hope this is not an inappropriate area to write this and ask for a response (still learning to negotiate the site). I am wondering if you were exposed to nuclear weapons or plutonium while you were stationed in Germany or at any point in your career. Thanks. -- Carol
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I'm sorry to hear of your diagnosis. I wish you well on your journey with it. The docs may have given you an expiration date but that's not always acurrate..Keep faith, Your a strong guy! Your in my thoughts and prayers! (((((((hugs)))))))))
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words can't express how sorry I am to hear about your father. I am here if you need anything and you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Nytwolf
I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. I can feel your pain after loosing my Dad and also my Husband.
I am a Hospice Volunteer. If I can be of any support to you or your family... please let me know. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. May God give you Comfort and Peace during this time and always.
Big HUGS my friend, Lisa ~XX~
LisaACOA
I think its great that you'll be going home for xmas. I am so sorry this is happening to you. I hope you know I'm always here for you.
flutterbyfly
i want to thank you all it really means a lot to me.
DAREDUDE
I'm very sorry. I know how painful it is to lose a parent and especially one who has taught you so much. I watched my Dad struggle (in person and from afar) with Congestive Heart Failure and COPD for over 3 yrs. He was my hero and taught me so much. He passed away before I could make it home to say my goodbyes, such is military life. He passed on my birthday and two days before his own. Try to enjoy your Christmas visit with your Dad and family. I cherish the memories of my last visit home and the conversations I had with my Dad while there. They will live on in my heart and mind. My prayers are with you and your family. *hugs*
CosmicLibrarian
I wish I could say something that will make things better for you. I can't even really tell you I know what you're going through, because you've been through so much. You're an amazingly strong man and I know you can continue to be. I lost my mom to cancer and it was the hardest thing I ever had to face. If you EVER need to talk, please don't hesitate to let me know.
joylei
When the shock factor starts to disipate, & the life changes that will enevitably take place, have settled down into a routine. The healing will start, and as the time passes, memories of the good times will far surpass any bad, and you will realize that you are a stronger person just for having known him. This was his part "of the Masters plan".
theGuardian