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1:14am Wednesday
I am glad my sister is here to give me some relief time, but I can't stand being around her. she criticzes everything I do for my mother. For example, she grabbed one of the pairs of pj's I bought my mom and said, "take these back. They're not warm enough." I don't need this, especially now.
The hospital chaplain came yesterday. He said we're probably looking at 9 months to a year for my mother to live. Other hospice people said much less. Then he said it would end up being 24 hour care. That would mean a nursing home. I DON'T WANT MY MOM IN A NURSING HOME.
My doctor's results didn't come back even though the doctor said I could call Monday. I'm on pins and needles here to find out.
All in all, I did not have a good day.
I'm thankful for DS where I can vent.
I'm thankful for the fact I've managed to keep my mouth shut to my obnoxious sister.
I'm thankful She is leaving Friday.
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I hope your Mom does not end up in a nursing home but sometimes it's a have to case. If it hadn't been for my brothers children that is where he would have ended up. To this day I do not know how they did it. Lifting so many times a day was a terrible strain. You are a good daughter & can do as much as you can but do not feel guilty if it comes down to the home. We didn't have one for my Mom & I can tell you sometimes they get better care than we can in the end. Hospice is so good but they can't be there 24 hrs. a day. Just be sure & take care of yourself so you can manage Mom as long as you can. I feel for you I've certainly been there. It made me sick to go see my sister there.
For good reason. Her kids did not pick a very good one. And didn't go see her enough. I lived 200 mi. away . That's the key. Checking on them enough to see they are getting the right care. There are some good ones you just have to check around. After my sister passed we found 17 pills under her bed. Any nurse knows first thing you make sure they swallow the meds.
I shouldn't be venting to you. But it makes me mad to this day.
I hope you can forgive yourself & get good results from the Dr. We are human & all make mistakes.
Take care, Judy
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My doc is always optimistic about the time it takes to get test results back. They usually coe 2 - 3 days after what he said. As for your sister, she obviously has some issues to work through. Maybe she's feeling guilty because you are the one on the front lines with your mom's care and she isn't. If you must put you mom into a nursing home, be very cautious and vigilent. If something feels wrong, it probably is. We have recently been through that and have experienced one of the worst (almost killed her) and one of the best. Check out my May 20 journal for info on the bad one: http://www.dailystrength.org/peopl...
taowalker