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SallyG 
Well, school is finally over. I had a pretty good group of kids this year. Next year I will be teaching 6th graders in math - should be a nice break from the 7th graders. Hope I can stay healthy for another year.
Mom is getting worse and worse. She worries about her cancer, but the bad part is that her memory is really going downhill. Now she does not know how to work the washer and microwave. She forgets to get her mail and then cries when there is so much in the mailbox. My sister now has to write her checks for her as she has also forgotten how to do that. Last Wednesday I took her to get groceries at a store she has shopped for about 30 years. She got lost finding the milk and I panicked when I could not find her. Two days ago we had 8th grade promotion, and when I got home at 9:30 p.m. there were two messages on my phone. She was crying that I did not show up to see her. Nothing was ever planned for me to come that day. Mom has been doing that to my sister as well- getting mad and crying that Sue does not visit her.
So now comes the really tough decision to make plans to put her in an assisted living facility. It's so hard - she lives in a 2,800 square foot home on an acre of land and she always talks about how independent she is, when in fact she is not. Her personal hygiene is gone and she sometimes lets strangers in her house. Mom will take it so hard when we tell her. We have made plans for June 10th to talk to her. In the meantime, my sister is putting her name on a waiting list. It seems that a family cannot just bring a family member to a facility - the good ones have a waiting list.
I'm sorry this is so long, but I just need to vent.
Also a dear friend of mine had surgery yesterday to try to shrink her fibroid tumors. She is against a hysterectomy and is hoping this will work, although her doctor is very concerned about the tumors. Nancy's tumor marker is rising and that is never a good sign.
I am trying to stay strong for mom and Nancy and my sister.
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That anger that you mentioned, I heard is the first signs of dementia. I know it must be a heartbreak to see her like that. Good luck to your friend. I hope she is okay. I am hoping you are well also.
anitaama
This is surely one of the many difficult parts of being a child to a parent who is in difficulty. My mother, who is nursing care now, will sometimes tell me on the phone, "oh, it's You!" in a grumpy sort of way. She really is better of where she is, but all the steps toward this were truly a nightmare. She suffers from dementia, not alzheimers, but it still has it's difficulties. All these life lessons we get...ya just have to wonder sometimes, "why me!?" But in truth, we all have to deal with aging and it's pain in some way or another in life. Glad to hear you talking so positively about next year's classes. Not long ago and you might have thought that next year was maybe not a possibility for you.
I, for one, am very glad you are here. hugs and good luck with your mother. lindamae
lindamae
It has taken me some time to catch up and find your entry here.. I hope things are getting more settled now. I really feel for your mum and the loss of her independence and will be wishing for the best for her and that she enjoys the changes ahead. Having people around might be just what she needs to keep her spirits up. All the best to Nancy too and to you and your family.. Inka xxx
Halli
Oh Sally I feel for you on what you are going through with your mother. It is so painful......With days full of worry that they will hurt themselves. If she really has difficulty with the assisted living arrangement (We have had that trouble and I hope you do not) we have girls coming in in the am and pm to make meals and medicate and take care of the day to day needs when we can not be there. Mom Hook likes the company and the girls help her with everything. I still do the grocery shopping and then our visits are more for visiting than duties. Here for you if you need to talk....It so good to here from you and that your school year was good. Hugs and more hugs....Beth
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