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gkg21 
11:35pm, November 1, 2009
10-28-09: Well, a sad time.....our family friend passed away. He was only 51! Basically, he died from repiratory distress. (the flu) He just didn't get care in time. He is the brother of a really good friend of mine. I went to his Mom's last night. It really doesn't matter how old your children are...they are still your children! She was so sad! Today she went to Urgent Care for "some" difficulty. It turned out to be acid refllux. Of course she is having that!!! She has just lost a "child". This is the second "child" she has lost. We chatted a bit last night. "Takes one to know one." I am just so sad for the family. This death actually effects me more than losing Craig's brother-in-law. How sad is that?!?!??!
Crazy stuff...Scott would've been 24 on Oct. 22. The brother-in-law died that day. The family friend went in the hospital that day. Nuts! "They" say it comes in three's....I am feeling quite anxious! And, Adam had a dream that Chris died! I don't even want to consider that!!!
Work is settling down a bit. I am still paranoid about the whole thing but am trying to just do my job and fly low! I do the best I can do, every day. I cannot do more than that. It is my hope that honesty and doing will be all "the powers that be" will need.
I am missing Scott so much! It seems, in some ways, that I am regressing.
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You are so right...does not matter how old the child is...the mother suffers. Like us, she has lost a part of her heart. It is wonderful for her that you were there...she may need your comfort again... Wow...what unusual coincidences about Scott's birthday. I sometimes feel like I have regressed some in my grief process...maybe it is like "two steps forward and one step back"...love and hugs...Karen
biowoman
Birthdays are so hard to deal with. If you feel you are regressing, I would bet it's because of the birthday. I was full of angst before and am still reeling.
It's wonderful that you can comfort your friend. You know there are no words and will just be there for her.
God bless you,
Sus
Soosanah
I will keep that mother in my prayers. Yes it does not matter how old our children our we are not suppost to out live them. We all will miss our children anyway. Most holidays & of course birthdays are hard. Birthday because we carried that child for 9 months and loved it way before it was born. I hope that you can maybe get your friend to the TCF Candle Light Service this year....Hugs, Connie
ConH
I am so sorry about your friend........and so sorry for that mother. It is good that you were able to be there and comfort her. With everything that you have had happening, I'm sure it has brought back some sad emotions and you do feel like you are regressing. Take care of yourself...........Hugs, Kim
KimRW
I feel for the other mother and you and your family for all the losses. I think you feel like you are regressing because you haven't actually had enough time to move forward...too much happening.....and of course, the birthday. It is a hard time for certain but then again...any day can be a bad day...there is no telling which one. I know that mother will appreciate your comforting words and presence as she goes through this time....you know the drill. God bless you as you handle each new day. Love,,, Dale...Brandon's Mom
Kingsdaughter
My love you will find that you are up one minute and down the next.. just be good to yourself and allow yourself to grieve.. love to you my friend..
munrogirl
It just seems that life holds so much sorrow and pain. Everyone has a mom, and too many mothers survive their children. Since Chris' death, I have met women of all ages that have lost a child, and it doesn't matter what age they are, or their children were, it is the same pain until we once again see our precious babies in heaven.
There is no fix, no solution, we just have to keep living, for life is a gift, and we all will leave someday, when it is our time.
Love and light, Rebecca
rcoco
I am so very sorry for this added grief and loss. I think we all regress at times. It happens on holidays, birthdays, death days, and at any time our hearts just tell us it is time to revisit our grief. I know it can be triggered by a song or a smell, just by a thought. It can happen for no apparent reason. You know it is happening to you know because oth this other mother who is at the beginning if her grief. You will get through this and tomorrow it'll be something else. (new or one of the old ones.) My love and prayers always,Peggy
grndmudder
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend and especially for the mother that joins our journey. I am glad that you are a friend to her. Regression is normal: for every "up" there seems to be a "down". Hopefully, for us, the "ups" outnumber the "downs". Love to you. Belinda
BinkyH
Hi Ginger, I never thought life would ever be so sad...I know I have to be strong for whats to come.. I remember saying, I'll be-able to go through anything after the pain of losing my son...I finally feel as though my son is up there looking down, to guide my life in some degree...Maybe it's the 3 1/2 year stage, i don't know... I'm starting to feel like, I want to live again...I think there is a silent comunication thing going on between my son and I...When I start to feel down, guilty,and remorse, all those bad feelings I have, is short lived.. I can hear Ryan say," MOM, it's time for you to move on, and live life again"... So knowing and believing this is how Ryan would want for me, HELPS SOOOOOO MUCH!!.... I hope everything works out for you, Love to you my friend!! Kelly
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