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So last Friday night a friend of mine starting telling me about all the joys of how his brother-in-law adopted and it was the best most amazing thing for he and his wife. Ugh... I just stared at him with dead eyes. OH WOW, adoption? Well, why didn't I think of that???? People are so STUPID. How dare he? Number one he should not even feel so bold to bring up the subject knowing our story.
And on Monday, my pegnant frenemy/co-worker, calls to tell me she is so sick and needs to go home or to the hospital. Why? Why would she say that to me, even if it was true (which it wasn't). I'm not the person she needs to unload on, gripe to or make insensitive sarcastic jokes to.
This is it though. This is how it's going to be from now on. I'm damaged and this is my baggage. I'm just going to have to put up with these morons forever. I have to bite my pillow, walk away, and let it eat me up from the inside out. Forever.
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Oh boy. The idiots speak and suggest something as novel as adoption. Geez. Our RE said that at our WTF consult--as if this was something new. I'm sorry things are so tough right now. I wish we lived closer...I'd meet up with you for some kickboxing or something :) But, for what it's worth I don't think you're damaged...that is such a harsh word...but at the same time I am NOT discounting what you went through. It was awful and horrible and devastating and unfair and there is no reason for it, no one should have to endure that pain. I just hate that you feel so bad. Gee, I'm about as helpful as your friend, eh?
AshleyPenelope
I am so sorry. I don't understand why some people say some things. Maybe they just don't know what to say and say anything. I call that "diarrhea of the mouth." I wish you did not have to go through any of this.
Lioness816
I KNOW YOUR PAIN, TRUST ME. BUT, IF YOU CAN FIND A PLACE IN YOUR HEART TO UNDERSTAND WHY THAT COUPLE ADOPTED, IT MIGHT HELP YOU. MAYBE THEY SUFFER A PAIN LIKE YOURS AND MINE? NOW THEY FOUND A WAY TO SUFFER NO LONGER. THE PREGNANT COWORKER IS ONE LESS PERSON THAT WILL NOT SUFFER FROM INFERTILITY. WHY WOULD WE WANT OTHERS TO FEEL OUR PAIN? I DO UNDERSTAND YOU, TRUST ME...I WISH YOU THE BEST..
EMM18