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Snowindresden 
Why does my mother feel she has to pick me apart because of her own insecurities? This is what happened tonight:
I bought this all natural granola from the market, and its chocolate flavored, and i go to eat it and this is the exchange of conversation at the table:
mom- "oh god, thats it when i get back from boston everyones eating nothing but salads"}
Me- "its all natural granola!"
Mom- "ugh, its got chocolate... you guys (my dad) are pigs"
My natural instinct is to either quit eating, or start binging more, in the display of teenage rebellion.
But instead, im trying, i really am, to just keep eating healthy.
It still stings though, to hear that. I know she thinks im a failure because i've gained weight, i know she thinks i'm not a good daughter because i'm not as thin as she was at my age.
She's thinner than me now! She never eats.
Ugh, this is a time when i really need support from my family and they're telling me to go to the other way.
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Soph827
The family backgrounds of women who binge are interesting. Many of these women report mothers who were critical, rejecting and they were eating disordered. For example, one patient in my practice had a mother who was obese. Mother and daughter would engage in eating vast amounts of food when the patient was a child. Binge eating came to be identified with the patient’s mother and represented her love and their private and blissful moments together. Another patient had a mother who was angry, rejecting and unpredictable. The mother would insist on restricting the food her daughter was allowed to eat. This was followed by the inconsistency of the mother taking them both out, in secret, to eat large numbers of donuts. However, the mother was extremely thin and restricted food intake for herself and her daughter most of the time. In both cases, these mothers were experienced as extremely intrusive.
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LostinReverie
(Quote from article at bottom - not my words)
LostinReverie
Sounds like your mom is suffering from a eating disorder and she takes out her frustrations on you and your dad. Next time she says something like oh god when we all get back were having salads -say no mom you can do that if you want but I am going to eat what my body asks me for because if i don't It will trigger a binge and I don't want to suffer from a ED all my life like you.
hollowperson