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rusty1 
11:06pm, November 9, 2009
Sometimes grief can stalk a person like a ghost always reminding us of what we had, what we lost and what we can never have again. It can take a person's hope, hide it away somewhere where it can never be found, that's what grief can do.
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Sometimes we just have to descend into grief. I had to today. I've now learned over several long months, that I have to let it do to me what it will. Grief is our expression that we loved well! Hoping the ghost stays away for awhile. Love to you friend. Robin
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I cannot tell you how to grieve, or how to hope again. It is just diffrent with each of us.It is an awful problem abd experience that we relive every time we think of it, and that is constantly for a long while.I guess in a way the way we grieve depends on many things. Just as living our lives do. Some people appear to be strong, but in privite they are just a mess too. Loosing a child is like loosing a part of your self. You daughter died in 2007, and that is not long in terms of grief. I lost my youngest son,Paul on 4-03-03. I found that the second year was much harder than the first one was. The first year is sort of such a shock and it is sort of unreal or your feel like you are just in a haze. With Paul had a much harder year the secound year. By then it had finall became real that he was really gone forever. When my only other child,my son Steven died 12-10-07. I was so devestated that I had no concept of time, or much of anything. The two griefs were all mixed up together, and I was really deep in the darkness of grief. I am still not in great shape, and I doubt if I every will be. I have light in my life my husband,James is a good msn, and I have grand kids. They were my light and the only light I could see for a long time. Try to focus on the good things and the people that you have. I know telling you to look ahead is stupid right now, but you really have to. If you can't look ahead, then live just for today.That is sometimes about as much as I can do. I understand how horrible loss and the awful pain in your heart that feels like it truley is breaking. Please keep looking to God for your comfort, and just keep your self as grounded with your familly and friends. God, family friends. That is how I was taught to put your life in the right direcion. I never lost a daughter. I am sure the bond is special. I did have a step daughter who died from a self inflicted gunshot wound 4 days after my oldest son's Memorial Service. My life has been so full of grief since 4-3-2003.I can't even comprhend it myself. BY God's grace, and a family and a few good friends,I will make it another day.I will be glad to talk about any od my experienses if you would like, or listen to yours. I send prayers and love your way Peggy
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