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LanaG 
12:06am, July 27, 2009
I had to go into the basement....where Alicia's things were stored. As I was going through a few of her things, I felt so much like I was violating her...I shouldn't be going through her things....sigh...and then I had to remember she is gone. 
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I know it's so hard...I think we all feel like their things still belong to them...because if we accept that they are no longer needed by our children, it is one more step to letting go of them. I feel the same way. But we really must remember that where they are now....they have no use for any kind of possessions, they are happy and free of things of this earth, and they are not missing any of "their things"...and now, they pass their things on to us, to remember them, or to share with others who need them. What you have in your heart can never be measured by things. I know it still hurts though, trust me :( Love, Carole
Jons Mom
i saw joeys things stored in the basement at my son bobbys home, and i went thru some of it and found a little statue he had of an elf. i knew he wanted me to give it to my grandson. i agree with jons mom, that all that stuff is just stuff they dont need but perhaps will let us know what to do with it. the first time i went thru it, tho, i broke down. i found joeys shirt and it smelled like him. i was a mess for weeks afterward, i had been avoiding it. i know the hurt. i try to hold on to who joey is now, and try to focus him in spirit , but i dont do so well some days. sending you love.
mari3333
My Son's things are still all in his room. I take my naps in there. I can't imagine storing his things yet. I feel like they are treasures. Its like I still have him there. It makes me feel closer to him to go thru his stuff. Her things are your treasures. Lots of memories, happy ones. Love Joanne
JoanneW
I haven't done anything with Melissa's things. Her room is the same. I go in there sometimes so I can feel close to her. We are not violating we are still hurting and remembering. It's a fear that we will forget our child. I hope you find some peace. Love and Hugs.
TracyW
Lana, I still have not gone through Shannon's things, but I have to soon because my son need's the room. He has everything stored at his house. I just don't want to go through the pain that is involved. I can't let anyone else do it because no one but me knows what has meaning and what does not. Is there ever going to be an end to our suffering? The week-end was rough for me. Joey showed up with flea bites all over his ankles and legs. I told his father, get rid of the fleas and will you now please take Shannon's dog to the vet! This is how I see the rest of my life going. Sending you a hug until I see you again. Love, Dianne
Bailey
It is bittersweet and still exhausting thing to have to do...but I could not let anyone else do it...it meant so much for me to do it. I collage of a persons life. But when that is all you have...you find memories where you may.
Love,
Ann
AnnM
I still have not even unpacked Weston's suitcase from his trip here to go riding with his buddy. I've tried several times, I'm just not ready to deal with that yet. Not sure when I will be, but the time will come! Sending you love and hugs, Cyn
CynK
Greg's things are in our basement, and his car sits in our driveway. Sometimes I feel comfort by holding his shirts next to me. Eventually, I plan to make a quilt out of his clothes so I can wrap up in it. Rita
RiJi
aarons belongings are all divided up in the family , i carry aarons sock always with me , i cry into it all the time , so no one can hear me sobing , i know its terrible , but it makes me feel closer to him , as a baby i always kissed his feet and played little piggies with him , the things u remember ,
4grandkids
I know the feeling and the pain that going through their stuff brings. I still have boxes and bags I haven't gone through. hanging in there. love and hugs cathy
RockstarsMom