Hi my name is Tish and I am a 36 …
Hi my name is Tish and I am a 36 year old married to my high school sweetheart and have two beautiful little girls. I …
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bobo 
1:09pm, September 21, 2009
WELL I HAVEN'T WROTE IN MY JOURNAL LATELY, I HAVE BEEN SO BUSY BABYSITTING AND PAINTING THE KITCHEN AND TEARING DOWN A WALL AND MAKING MY LIVINGROOM BIGGER. ME AND DAVID HAS BEEN SO BUSY AND REALLY TIRED, BUT IT LOOKS REALLY GOOD. THE GIRLS, HALEY AND EMILY HASN'T BEEN TO SCHOOL ALL WEEK LONG, THEY HAVE BEEN SO SICK AND STILL ARE.
WE TOOK THEM TO THE DOCTOR AND THEY TESTED THEM FOR STREP AND FLU BUT IT WAS NEGATIVE SO THEY SAID THAT THEY HAVE THIS VIRUS THAT'S JUST LIKE THEY FLU BUT THEY CAN'T GIVE THEM ANYTHING. AND YOU CAN AT LEAST TAKE SOMETHING FOR THE FLU.
I'M HAVING A REALLY HARD TIME RIGHT NOW WITH MY OLDEST DAUGHTER, I DON'T LIKE SMOKING AT ALL, MY DADDY DIED WITH LUNG CANCER CAUSED FROM SMOKING AND I WATCHED HIM STRUGGLE FOR 5 DAYS AT HOME UNTIL HE DIED. MY MOMMA SMOKES LIKE A TRAIN AND SHE HAS COPD, I WAS RAISED IN CIGERETTE SMOKE FROM THE TIME I WAS BORN. I HAVE ASTHMA AND I KNOW WHAT IT CAN DO TO YOU.
I FOUND OUT LAST NIGHT THAT MY DAUGHTER HAS BEEN SMOKING SINCE SHE WAS IN HIGH SCHOOL AND SHE HAS LIED TO ME THIS WHOLE TIME. SHE HAS THIS KIDNEY DISEASE LIKE DAVID AND MY HEART IS BROKE. MY CHILDREN HAS ALWAYS KNEW THE WAY I HAVE FELT ABOUT THIS AND NOW I'M FINDING OUT THAT SHE HAS BEEN SMOKING FOR ABOUT A YEAR AND A HALF.
I THINK HER BOYFRIEND HAS ALOT TO DO WITH IT BUT I JUST FEEL LIKE A FAILURE AS A MOTHER. AND I'M IN SO MUCH PAIN FROM LOSING SO MUCH SLEEP TRYING TO TAKE CARE OF MY YOUNGEST DAUGHTER, SO RIGHT NOW I'M A BIG MESS AND MY NERVES IS SHOT AND I JUST KNOW WHAT TO DO. I LOVE MY CHILDREN AND WOULD DIE FOR THEM. I'M PRAYING THAT GOD WILL HELP ME!!!!!!!
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I really don't have an answer for you on this one, sweetie. My son never smoked and because me and Bear were both smokers for years. I was smoking 3 packs a day when I quit 8 yrs ago. Somehow when you are young, you THINK it makes you look "cool". Lets just pray that she realizes what a nasty habit it is and gives it up soon. I would start educating her as to the damage that tobacco can cause.
BasketMoon
You are not a failure, kids will be kids and we all have free will here on earth.
I hope that she will reconsider the smoking issue. If you protest too loudly on this it will probably cause her to dig her heals in and be more defiant.
Just let her know that you love her no matter what, and I think that in time she may try and get help to stop smoking.
asilinc298
Yes, as BasketMoon said start educating your oldest daughter as to the dangers of tobacco and what one can get if they smoke cigarettes. I have asthma and am allergic to cigarette smoke and I have had to tell my friends who smoke to PLEASE go outside and smoke since I am allergic to it. You might look on the American Lung or Cancer website for information that you can send for, or even do a web search on Emphysema since people with cancer can come done with that, or even if you know somebody that has lung cancer - ask them to explain to your daughter what smoking can do to her lungs.
HUGS, LOVE and PRAYERS, Lori
browneyedgirl61
My son did the same thing and I would find his cigarettes and throw them away...but it did not stop him. It just is, let it go they have to live with their mistakes just like we do. We want to insulate them from those things we know will hurt them...some kids will listen and some seem to need to go through it...Why I do not know...I have learned to take a deep breath and tell myself I taught the better then that and tell them how I feel then move on...you will go crazy if you don't.
You are good mother and grandmother...you have a full plate and have had for so long. Prayers for you and yours and don't put the weight of the world on your shoulders...you need to put you first! Then they will have more to help them...they are going to need you and there will be no you left!
bigouie
Sorry Bobo, I am a smoker, grandmother and some other close friends have died as a direct cause of smoking, but still I continue to smoke. As stupid as I am, what gets to me most is that when people, close friends and my grandkids say things to me about smoking, it really pulls at my heart strings.
Oherwise, I just put it in the back of my mind untill it is brought up again, but it does make me think. It's not your fault that she or anyone else smokes. When I was a kid I hated it and everything about it but I grew up with it and now I have become what I hate. Smoking is a terrible habit, I know I should quit, so the more it is brought to my attention the more I think about it. I quit for 6 months because something loving was said to me by a smoker himself. Just hang in there and let her know that you want her to quit because you love her.
laceyblue
Everyone has said pretty much what I would have told you. You know how much you love your kids, Sweetie, just as they know... you have taught them right from wrong, and you are far from a bad mom or you wouldn't even be worrying over her! You are a GREAT MOM! The absolute hardest thing about being a mother is that we cannot make them DO or NOT DO anything!! All you can do is educate her, tell her you love her, and most importantly PRAY! I have 4 kids myself and they are or have done things they know are bad for them or bad for others. A friend of mine once said something that stuck in my head...she said, "You give your kids roots and wings"...your daughter is just flying by herself! I totally agree with bigouie about you taking care of yourself though. I have had to do some things for the good of myself and my kids, by taking a BIG step back and taking care of myself for a change!
I wish I could be more encouraging hun. This is where it stings to be a mom. The boo-boos of infancy are nothing compared to todays teen+ issues! Try to hang in there sweetie...I know it isn't easy, but you have to give it up to God!
pomgirl
Becky...I used to smooke, but haven't for many years. 2 of my 4 children smoke and it heartbreaking to see it. You can give advice, but they have to quit in their own time. It is unfortunate, but true. You are not a failure. One thing that I have realized as a parent...we raise them the best we can and teach them the best we can and guide them. Once they reach a certain age they are responsible for their own actions. I will be praying for you, my dear friend. Love, hugs and prayers
AzGal45