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bobo 
1:09pm, September 21, 2009
Well this week is a little better
than last week but still not good. This flare has really taken it's toll on me. This is the forth week now and
the longest that I have ever been in a flare. This one has really kicked my butt good. The problem with
Amber is okay I guess, we are still trying to talk some sense
into her and I'm praying she is listening.
You just never know when you have a teenager. I think that I have come to realize that she is in God's hands now
and there is nothing that I can do or say to change her but
David on the other hand is really worrying now
more than I am. I don't anything to happen to her but when you have said and done everything that you can think of
it's so hard and all this stress is what's making
my flare so bad. So I am turning my daughter over to God and letting him take care of her.
I'm having a really hard time right now with this flare the pain is so intense, I didn't know that a toe could hurt so bad!!! I see so many things that needs to be done
and it's killing me that I can't do it.
I just pray that things start getting better cause I just
don't like me right now.
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No matter how long you have had this horrible
disease, you still don't know what to expect from all the pain and fatigue. I honestly don't think I have ever felt
so drained and just worn out. I have worried about Amber alot lately and always will but I have come to the conclusion
that I can't do anything to help her. She is going to have to do it herself. It's her life and she has to make the decision
to do what's right and live with it.
I have been in flares before, but I have never not been able or felt like talking. Today I just can't talk it's like
it takes too much out of me. When I walk through the house it feels like my legs are going to come out from under me.
This flare is really working on me, and this
is one time I really feel like giving up!!!
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I know how bad it is when you get flares..it feels like it will never stop and then I think I realize I am not superwoman..My girls call me everyday and my oldest is going through alot..it takes alot out of me but she has no friends anymore or anyone to talk to..but alot of things I have come to the conclusion I cant help her either..God bless you...
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I know how hard it gets. For a few weeks the pain in my back has been awful. One thing i do know you have to let chrildren make mistakes, and pray they learn from it. NO matter how much your heart is breaking. One thing you have to do also . You have fibromyalgial. DON'T LET IT GET YOU. Don't give it control of your body. That is the hardest thing to do. I have had it over 30 yrs. But i will fight that diease as long as i live. it has no control over me. LOVE YOU SWEETIE. ONE DAY WE WON'T HAVE THESE BATTLES TO FIGHT. LINDA
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Don't give up! It will get better. It always seems like it's going to last forever, but you will feel better. I'm sorry you're suffering so much. I hope you feel better very soon! You're right about Amber, you can only do so much, she has to make her own choices and live her own life. Easier said than done, of course, but do your best to love her without ruining your own life and health.
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I know how hard it can be!Stress just adds to the flare.Your in my thoughts and prayers! Tori
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Becky ,i do know how hard it is ,to get through these nasty flares...just know your being thought about ,and loved...and have a hand or two to hold when you most need it..:)
I`m almost certain the reason this flare has lasted so long ,and taken so much from you ,is the stress you are under with your daughter ,and her problems...
You`re right though...eventualy ,we have to losen the ties a .little...we never stop being a mum....but do have to let them discover for themselves ,that there are consequences to every action in life.....she`ll turn out ok...as one of my close ds friends told me once....you put good into her....good will come out...just keep the faith you have in her ,and in your abilities to teach all your girls right from wrong....cos they`ll remember it ,when they most need too:)
Meanwhile ,i hope you can concentrate on just you:)..get yourself feeling brighter ,and the pain ease off some....the rest will fall into place...:)
Sending all my love ,hugs and blessings my dear friend..ttys..love sharon xoxoxoxxo
Well it's been a rough weekend, just about the
worst one that ever had. We found out that our daughter's boyfriend is doing some really bad things. Amber is beside herself and I have been in a horrible flare and all this stress
is making it worse. I just don't know what
to do. My children is my world and I would die for them but sometimes you have to start growing up and
realize that you need to start making better decisions.
I have worried till I'm sick and in horrible pain. I have talked till I'm tired and I don't know what else to do.
I just don't know how to handle this situation. When I went to church this morning and we had special prayer for her.
So now I have to let God take care of her
cause I can't doing it alone. I love her but I just don't have the answers. Hanging around the wrong crowd will get
you into a lot of trouble. It's been such a rough weekend and I'll be glad when it is over.
If anyone reads this please pray for my daughter
her father and for me. I'm so worn down from worrying so much
and not sleeping at night. I have had one nervous breakdown
and I sure don't want to have another and by the grace of God I won't. I just feel so helpless and I don't know what to do.
You can either push them away from you or
get closer to them to where they will listen.
I have always heard that
Love is blind.
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It's always hard watching our children being hurt.
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becky, i'll pray for all of you, amber will have to probably figure this out on her own, it's in god's hands now. it will all work out.
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Sending Hugs and Prayers for your whole family. May God guide all of you and give you the peace you need.
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You are all in my prayers.
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Becky,
I will be praying for Amber, your husband and you. I am here for you if you need me. I pray that your pain will ease as well.
Love, hugs and prayers
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Becky, you are always in my prayers!! I know how much you love your daughter and worry about her. I also know how hard it is to give her and her situation over to God. All I can so is pray and that, my friend, I will do.
Mary Lou
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Hi Becky! I've gone through this type of thing with my kids as well. My hubby was either gone or sick, so I was on my own too! But, just as everyone and you too have said, you just have to let Amber learn the hard way sometimes. God lets us go through these low points and trials in life so we can learn and be greatful for the good times. I don't know if you've ever listened to a DR James Dobson...He is a Christian & runs the site called Focus on the Family as well as is the author of several books on "Tough Love"! Sometimes you can write to him or call the program and he'll help you for free! I'll be keeping you in my prayers and you are always in my thoughts honey! Love and God Bless You all! It will all work out_SOMEHOW! Love and hugs~Kim xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
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I read your entry and it so reminds me of my life..my daughters have not made the best choice of men and they have nobody else to talk to so they call me and I talk like you until I cant talk anymore..I have physically went over and moved them out of their houses but just went back..I never really feel the greatest anymore and I know that stress has alot to do with it I just wanted to tell you I know how you feel and God Bless You...
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You're wise to turn your daughter over to God. You can only do so much, and then prayer is your best strategy. Stress is a huge trigger for fibro flare, it's no wonder you've been so sick. Turn yourself over to God, too. You may not like yourself right now, but your heavenly Creator loves you bunches. :-) Many soft hugs, Bobo.
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