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When I was 8 years old my brother died of a brain tumor. I was so young but I remember vividly my Mom sitting me down on the couch in the den, I was still in my PJs and wondering why no one had woken me up for school. She explained that everyone dies and it feels like they have left us and we miss them when they are gone but that the people we love go to a place called heaven where they can look down on us and protect us even though we can't see them or hear them. They are gone but they never truly leave us. Then she explained that while I was sleeping my brother went to heaven and he would not be coming back. She said I would see him again someday but not for a very, very long time. Now, I don't know what your beliefs are and I won't get into mine but I think it is good to reassure a child who has lost a loved one that even though that person is not physically here that they never truly leave us. Then she gave me a choice. I could go to the funeral or spend the night and part of the next day until after the funeral with the parents of my sister's boyfriend at the time. I decided not to go and I really regret that to this day...as I think I've mentioned in my journal before. So, if you think he can handle it and if you think you can handle having him there I recommend bringing him...later on he'll be glad he was there even though he is so young.

As for the exercising and dieting...that is kind of difficult to do when your in the mourning process. There is probably food being brought in from neighbors and friends and various relations...not to mention the planning and the decision making. You'll get back on track soon. If you can squeeze it in take a walk to clear your head and get yourself moving.

My 2 cents: the song not only sounds appropriate I think it would be a lovely gesture.

healthymamie

I am sending my love and prayers your way. You are such a loving mom, Jimmy will need lots of hugs but I know that you will sit with him for as long as it takes and as many times as it takes to hold him and help him through it. You are your son's hero, he looks up to you so just make sure you are completely honest with him and any questions he may have.
I am sending my love to you Kathy. Try to keep your chin up and your arms open and I think you and him will help to heal each other. :) I love you Kathy!

smileLisa

I remember when my parents told me about my grandmother and they were very supportive and honest with me. I had about ten thousand questions, so be prepared. Also, be prepared for a lot of "Why" questions. It's going to be tough, my parents said it was the toughest thing to tell me, but they were great when I look back at it. But I know you guys will be fine and give lots of hugs. I thinking of you guys at this tough time. I think that song is a great choice. Hang in there!

NCFroggy

Losing someone you love is sad for a while, sometimes we got to just be there to give them a hug. Probably a good idea to let them know at school what Jimmy has been going through, and don't forget books can be very theraputic- I can send you another list of good boods for kids on death and dying- I love kid's books for myself too- so simple and well stated.

Docc

I am so sorry you are going through all of this. We just celebrated my father's 76th birthday on Sunday. It was wonderful. We took him to the Sox game and watched it from a Diamond Suite. I think it is very important to make memories that will last a lifetime. It was really nice to read that Jim's father got to spend time with the ones he loves before passing. He sounded like a great man. I will pray for you and your family. Stay strong and remember that I am here for you. Sorry I haven't been around, but I have been so busy with work. Miss you and will try my best to come by more often. Have a better week!

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