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nanaofbailee 
10:45am
Got a call from a Legal firm yesterday---actually 2, though one was more of a fishing trip for money, I think. $ 398 down and then $ 26 a month to have unlimited access to an attorney not even in my state. Ha!! The second call was from another firm; an attorney he said. He listened patiently, allowed me to ramble while gently guiding me to the answers he needed. The result is that this is a simple??? transfer of custody suit. As I have had Cian since Feb 2006, he was sent to me by CPS (who will NOT do anything to help me, BTW), I have not restricted access to the child by any other family member, he is in school, has a roof over his head, food (LOL that he may or may not like) to eat, extracurricular activities and all being paid for by me (or his aunties) and the signed Legal Guardianship papers (signed by his mom & duly witnessed) The only thing to do is to file the paperwork with the court and get a court date. He seemed confident that any judge would sign off on the transfer of custody.
Well, nice to have been validated, eh???!!!
Got a letter from Brett yesterday. He explained what he was arrested for, why they violated his parole and came up with some convincing reasons for why he did it. Only problem is that anyone who could testify to his statements to the public defender have mysteriously disappeared. Go figure!!!!!
Now the tough question. He is a diagnosed BPer, he had routinely gone off his meds, refused treatment and constantly done really stupid stuff. Do I contact the attorney with this reiteration of information (it is all in his legal profile from prison) or do I just let him "get off" legally yet again and wait anf worry for the next friggin time this happens????
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oh my gosh,,, it never ends does it,,, I know how you feel and wish I were there to give you a big hug,,, In my opinion,,, he is an adult,,, he knows right from wrong he has to make his own dicesions,, if he decides to keep off his meds and any help from pdoc's, and continously gets in trouble that is his decision,, if you interfere he will be so mad a you,,, and I know you dont want that,,, you cant help him if he wont help himself,, he is a male and the male population never do anything wrong,,, he is male and males may not always be right but they are never wrong,, he is a beeper and most beepers say it wasent their fault,,, and then the paranoia every one is out to get me lololol,,,,let him make his own dicisions then if he gets in trouble it is on him not you,,,, hope this dosent sound to harsh,,, just my opinion,,, love you mf
Jackie19467
I totally agree with Jackie... he is a GROWN up (may not act like it though) and HAS to learn to be responsible for HIS own actions... he cannot count on YOU or anyone else all the time to bail him out...!!!
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barbra2
As you know, Nana, I am not bipolar, but I DO live with one, if that counts :) It is very hard for men to go to the doctors and keep on their meds, at least in some cases :) They are more apt to self medicate or over medicate, or under medicate rather than go to a doctor and get things straight. I dont know why this is, but I do know, there is nothing you can do. I dont think letting him get off or punishing him will do any good. In both scenarios, he either doesnt think he did anything wrong, and truly believes it, or he gets in trouble with the law and doesnt really understand why. All you can do is love him and hug him and try to make him understand that he needs help. Big warm huggs to you too, Nana :) Joanne :)
Goldilox2