nanaofbailee's Journal

I posted this in the War and Terrorism Community tonight.  They are a community with as much strife as the BP Community.  CREATOR help us all if this fighting and fussing is what our country has come to----we will all disappear like the dinosaurs. 

LOL I am an old lady, and so have "earned" the right to tell a story or two (or three lol). I pray that it will not start another "War" tonight.

Apologies in advance if you are offended.


When I was a teen, my foster-mother had 6 girl children of her own and was fostering a multitude of children at the same time. The little ones (under ten) would fuss and fight until she was an absolute nervous wreck. One day we teenagers walked in to find three sets of children sitting on various pieces of furniture with their arms wrapped tightly around their respective partners. We kept quiet--the look on our mother's face said that would be best--and went about our chores and homework. As I swept the kitchen floor, I noticed that one set of kiddos, still tightly wrapped around each other, walked to the bathroom (a funny sight to be sure!!), returning in the same manner to sit on the couch, in the exact same spot. After about 10 minutes, mother told them all to come to her and they quickly followed the directive, standing one next to the other as they arrived at the dining table. She began speaking, " Do you all know why you have been punished?" To which they all said, "Yes, mother, for fighting amongst ourselves." She said, "Correct. And do you know why I gave you that punishment?" They said, in unison, "No mother".

Here is what she said to those adults in young clothing. "There is enough strife and pain in this world for someone with even a little bit of goodness in them to add to it. Disagreements will happen---we are all people with brains God gave us to use. But to fight and fuss and intentionally try to injure someone you have anything in common with is a useless waste of intelligence and energy. Agree to disagree and your life will be mostly full of goodness and your conscience will always be clear."

This incident impressed me to the point that when I had children, and they fought, I used the same punishment and, to this day, if you ask my adult children what was the most educational thing their mother taught them, they will tell you, " DO NOT get caught fighting with another when mom is around because you will have wrap your arms around them and go to the bathroom with the person watching you pee".


Now the point I think I am trying to make is that, while we all try to live by the Golden Rule, the statement that rules are made to be broken is a fitting statement.


We have to do the best we can toward our fellow man; no one is perfect and disagreements will happen.



My hope is that no one is seriously hurt in this room, and if you are bleeding and torn up, remember, the person you just fought with may be the one to call 911.