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ColleenF 
I don't know if I want my step son to move in. I don't know if I want his girlfriend here. I don't know if I want to live with a baby again. I don''t knowif I will like these peopke or ifthey will like me. What I do know is that I do not want my son to move out to make room for them. I do not want my cats to be declawed and farmed out to live with my freind Carol. Girlfriend is allergic. So is my husband, I make him take meds. Why the hell can't she take meds? How in the hell can someone ask to move in with someone else and then say "oh, but you have to get rid of your cats." I've already been told that the new ones will not be going to my mom's house for the holidays because her house is dirty. I always clean her house before the holidays. So now if I go, I go alone.
Please pray for me that I will become more friendly.
Two nights ago I got the call we all dread. "Mrs. Fleckenstein your son has been in an accident." It was a police officer. If I didn't already know what it feels like to lose a son I might have killed this one. He had a fender bender 1 1/2 blocks from thehouse, and knowing I would bein my night gown, thought it would be funny to see me running down the street. I cannot believe that this child was spewed forth from my loins.
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I don't know the whole story and may be speaking out of term, but if it is your house, I think you should have an opinion who lives there.
I don't think you have a problem being friendly. I would feel the same way. I probably would mind. My son would not be moving to accomodate them, and I darned sure would not farm out my babies.
Your son seems to have a warped sense of humor. Sounds like something my Chad would do.
Hugs, Barbara
doxylady
I am with Barbara...into your house...under your conditions...I thought they were just coming for a visit! Love to you...Karen
biowoman
Who's house is it? Yours right - if they want to live in your house it is with your rules - not theirs. That is a no brainer...as for your other son I think I would make his life very miserable for a long while - not funny!!!!
annsullivan
Tough decisions. I remember after Kala's accident her best friend Gesi, who'd survived the accident that night, was in need of a place to live. Lot's of drama with her mom and sister....just a mess. Gesi is a sweet, lovely, kind girl....but I knew in my heart of hearts it just wouldn't work out. So, I said no. It was hard. Very hard. But I knew I could not further upset my household...even though it was just me and Roger. Bringing someone new into our home, changing our lifestyle (meaning watching TV in our underwear and going to bed at 8PM) would just not fly. I understand it's your husbands son, and I understand his desire to have his son move in....BUT the girlfriend, the cat situation, and the insult about your moms house is just a little much. And to Mr. Fender Bender wanting to see mom run down the street in her nightgown.....not cool dude! Not cool at all. Love ya sweetie. Let us know how it all works out. I'll be thinking of you, Teri.
RememberKala
Oh no...........if they are moving in with you, then they need to adapt to your house and your rules...not you adapt to them. You are friendly...they just need to understand your friendliness !! Hang in there Colleen. And give your son a slap from me..........scaring his momma like that !!! Sounds like the sense of humor that mine had. Good luck. Hugs, Kim
KimRW
Thank you all so much. You know, I have lived with other people before and nobody EVER changed anything in the household to accomodate me. Thanks to you all I can put my foot down where I need to.
ColleenF
do not let them make the rules or you will have them makeing other rules and soon you will feel like moveing out yourself believe me i know.
keagansmom