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  From hennylisa April 13

  Hello folks, I have read all the entries of Captainishmael. I feel compelled to let you HEAR my side. We were HAPPILY married for 7 years. He had a tendency to get "hurt" while working a job he did not enjoy doing. In 8 years he was "HURT" 4 times. Let's face it work is just that WORK. There are people in this world who will get hurt to AQUIRE the sympathy of other people. Captainishmael's real name is Jeff. Norris - Note the period, he signes this on all of his papers. He would state that he was the only man with a period. This MAN was very lazy, content to let his wife (me) who is 18 years older than him work hard, clean, cook, even do yard work. While he would sit and play video games. I made more money then he did. That was until 2005 when he found out his father had brain cancer. He hatched a plan to leave me. He knew he was getting money when his father died. I worked really hard and bought him a plane ticket several times so he could go from Idaho to Alabama to see his father. When he came back after a week down there, he finally got a GOOD job making more money than me for the first time in our marriage. Looking back this was so that he could leave with the thought "Look how I had a job for her."This job lasted for 6 months and then he got "HURT" Now I am not saying that he did not get hurt, but I believe that he got hurt on purpose. He loved to FEEL pain. He would do anything for attention like that. From June 15, 2006 to December 16, 2006 he did nothing but sit on his butt and play video games. It was a mutual agreement that he leave to go get a job @ Edison Chouest in Louisanna. So, he left Idaho on December 16, 2006. His father died on December 18, 2006. He told me our marriage was over on December 28, 2006. He got a job working on the boats in January 2007. I do so afirm that not one time in our marriage did he say he was unhappy. He was treated like a king. I gave him surprise birthday parties, he came home to a spotless home, with a hot home cooked meal 5 nights out of 7, even the outside was beautiful. The so called abuse did occur as follows - I kept asking him what was wrong (I now know he was plotting to leave) I went nuts three times, I slapped him and pushed him and broke things. I am not saying that this was right, it was wrong. But, have you ever felt like no matter what you did for a person it was never good enough. Each time he would push me away, I would do more and more for him. I finally snapped after the emotional with holding of his love from me. He would never make any decisions with me, as he put it then if it was a mistake it would be my mistake not his. He came back to Idaho February 2007, telling me that he made a mistake and wanted to work out our marriage. He said a prayer that morning - (and I quote) Dear God this woman is an amazing woman. I know that you will work this out between us and make it right again. He waited till I went to work and grabbed some things and snuck away - just like the sneak he always was. One example - one day I was doing yard work he spotted me and turned onto a side road. I know that it was him because of the truck and the fact that he drives with his lights on, even during the day. I questioned him and he denied this. He did not want to help. As far as his dog is concerened, I moved down south in August 2007 and brought his dog with me. (the dog was actully a wolf-hybred that I bought him, I took care of him as well.) The house he said he bought was his brothers. He was allowed to stay there. I came down and went into the house. The police were called by his sister-in-law and they told me that I could not stay there. I asked them what to do with the dog and they told me to call everyone and tell them the dog was there. I left the dog on the porch with food and water and called his mother, aunt, brother and grand mother. His brother went to the the house and because the dog growled at him, his brother put a bullet in the dogs head. Jeff told me this fact, when I asked him where Jekota was. If I broke into the house like he said I did WHY didn't the police arrest me right then and there? I did not steal any checks. Last but not least dear friends, this man is GAY. He was not interested in a sexual relationship. We were married and did not have relations until that night. Beautiful right? Wrong, we made love one time. Why would a straight man who never had a sexual relationship only want to make love one time? If anyone was sexually abused it was me. I was STARVED for love. I am happily single now. I have been burned three times - a peta file the first, a crack addict the second and the last completely confused me. He is a gay lazy man who hides behind a strong woman. He also will do anything his brother tells him to do too. I will not fall for anyone again. Please forgive any miss spellings. That was one thing he always insisted on was perfect spelling. Too bad he did not know how to love........... If you have any questions feel free to ask. God Bless

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  From tntmace January 16

  I hope you have resolved the biggest concern you shared, namely, your husbands abusiveness. God never intends for abuse to happens. And He absolutely does not intend for anyone to be subject to physical or emotional abuse. There is help for anyone wanting to leave an abusive relationship, and Jesus will never leave you nor forsake you... so you are never alone there either. Take heart, take steps to protect yourself physically, and involve a pastor or friend to help you sort things out or move out. As you grow in Christ and His word, you will indeed be set free.

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  From pomgirl December 24, 2008

  Have a very wonderful and Blessed Christmas and a Happy New Year...May the coming year bring you and your loved ones health, happiness and hope. Love~N~Hugs, Kim

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  From hopeisalive July 21, 2008

  huggs hope things are going well in your life

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  From pomgirl July 20, 2008

  Hi there, big welcome back hugs to you! H..U..G...S!! I have been thinking and praying about you and here you are! Hugs for a great weekend. Love ya, Kim xoxo

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