I'm not at my best today...my husband …
I'm not at my best today...my husband is at the end of his rope and so am I. I spend the mortgage money again and he …
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cmain 
HELLO!!!!!! DO I EXIST?????? I think I need to stand in front of my husband so I know I am heard. He does hear me and when confronted , will repeat what I said. I just need some response to know I am heard. That is what we want men, TO KNOW WE ARE HEARD.
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Have you read any of Deborah Tannen's books? I think that's her name. One in particular, called "You Just Don't Understand" may be an eye opener for you. But I sure agree with you. Good luck. Joan
joaneh
you are heard loud an clear --dont you no men have selective hearing.they hear what they wont to hear not what we wont them to hear.
deb67
Sweetie - Have you not figured out yet that for the most part men are jackasses and it's up to us to train them. Like dogs, they may never learn. Don't mean to be so cynical but I'm getting sick of how pathetic they can be, been around a few new ones these days and do not see the difference. Maybe it's just me, but it is wearing me out. XX Michelle
michellehorvath
Glad you are back. We talk and they hear...yada, yada, yada. ;-) Humor helps on some days.
TammyTrue
yep, its true!! amazing how they can tune in and out when they want something...kind of like a canine (at times)...have you had to use the mouse traps or glue lately?
injustice
Yes, dear.zzzzzzzzz......I hear you...........zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
Do you ever wonder how often you selectively ignore his remarks?
I don't think anyone listens to anybody else with rapt attention
100% of the time. dave
usualsuspect
definitely! My husband will act like he's listening (and he's pretty convincing) but never do what it was I was talking about.
RikkiS
Listen you can yell at them until you are blue in the face it won't do any good. I think it's the water they all drink it some don't swallow so much *smiles* They won't change and you can't change them you are only fighting a losing battle. But I admire your stamana.
enchantment
Glad to see you back. There is a great book by Susan Forward entitled "Emotional Blackmail" - she deals with this issue in a sort of oblique manner. Good thing he's repeating you - but if you think he is still not hearing you - maybe you make him write it down - he'd have to think about it a little more. You know - like when you were a kid and a teacher made you /me write something 100 times on the blackboard so that you'd remember it? Well if it worked then it just might work now:) Take care.
LindaJean
Whoa, back with a bang. I hear you sweetie. Come around more often and get that stress out. Men? I am married to one and for the most part we leave each other alone until we want to go have fun or talk about money. I run my life the way I want and If he wants to come along for the ride then he needs to keep up and vice versa. If he is lucky enough to listen then we have a great time but if not then I go find something to do with friends. Hope you get yours worked out. My relationship is no model.
ginnyb
Hello Sister, Thanks for requesting my friendship. As ya probably know Im one of the few men on this sight that gives a shit about all,( Maybe I shouldn't of typed it like that oh well)I dont do domestic advise Im no Dr.Phil. LOL! But after reading this last entry you did. If shit is that ignorant in your relationship! Fuck it! Its not worth anyone to beat thier heads on the wall trying to make things work out. Sister, my feeling are that 50/50 split in DURING ALL RELATIONSHIPS!!(GOOD TIMES&BAD TIMES) Its the small things in life that makes us happy sister, The more ya try to make one's partner happy the worse it gets. Because one has got to be happy with themslves first! I dont know if this helps.But everyone should be honest thru thick and thin, Take care sister, I support ya!!!!!!
tattman
Maybe if you stood near him with a frying pan he`d pay more attention LOL I`m glad to see you posted again.Big Hugs!
chimmer
Get a big hammer.
tattoo
I hear you!!
youngJames
Perhaos he hears but doesnt agree? I think it is best to ask. I have a W that hears but chooses not to listen. I know she chooses not to b/c I ask. Doesnt help much from a frustration perspective but it does open dialogue. I need to decide and have been, whether it is a big enough issue to do something about it. I have decided not to ask any more and just do. Cut the phone off. Disconnect the cable for the computer whatever you need to do. He will listen then, I bet you!
Kfield
I feel the samething with my hubby.
naynay28