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KCJ 
5:22pm, September 8, 2009
I have watched my loved one go from a happy out going person to someone that whimpers and whines at the thought of going out of this apartment. I asked his pain doctor about whether he was addicted to the drug he is on and the doctor laughed at me. My husband has been on a morphine derivative for nearly 2 years but the doctor sees no problem with it.
I do wonder why the doctors keep patients on a drug that has clearly been proven addictive for so long – could it be the doctors get such a big kick back from the pharmaceutical companies? I think it is. The puffers too are addictive but they are pushed so that the body gets a double dose of pollution from breathing the air in the crowded cities.
What do I do to stop this round of insanity I am living in? Although we don’t have to pay for the drugs we still have to go pick them up every month. He claims he isn’t addicted cuz he just takes the prescribed dosage but he can't go past the time for the doses and sometimes i think he is taking before the 12 hours is up.
This one has changed from the person I used to love to one that I don’t even want to know. I did love him too but now I am feeling that I am staying with him for convenience because separately our government allowance doesn’t allow separate dwellings – most of one check would go to the rent and that is for a crappy little apartment in the middle of a cement maze – as I call the city
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I am convimced many 'physicians' are pill-pushers' on a kick back who have chosent to forget what medicine and healing are all about. This is NOT true of ALL physicians! Bu any 'physician' who ignorantly laughs at the addictive properties of morphine is an uncaring horse's ass.
And your 'loved one' IS addicted! --- to pain relief. And I bet he fears the pain. You are trapped by circumstances in that cement jungle. But, traps can be sprung --- with cooperation.
It MAY be (take note) a wise consideration to confer with your dtrs on a new living arrangement. And, this MAY assist you in the realization of your heart's desires.
HUGS
harry1945
(SORRY FOR THE TYPOS!)
harry1945
yes your hubby is addicted to pain killer & pain relief as harry stated, I've had many addictions n have concoured them.
severe pain will cause a personality to change and also drugs needed to kill pain. hios doc shoulda told u about the addictions n choices.
to get him off of morph. he has to b weened off of it in small doses
otherwise it can cause strokes heartattacks n central nervous system failure
& possible seizures.
maybe if he gets off the morphine n on somethin else his pain may reduce too.
there is a 'phantom pain' that can b caused by addictions too.
any more q's? send me a message , no hugs plz?
cowboy357
we are sorry, pepper
pepper09mos
I'm sorry I can't agree about the addiction - if he is taking his meds more or les as prescribed and treating pain the chances are he's only physically dependent, which is not at all the same as addiction.
I think a lot of us are "addicted to pain relief" and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I have serious problems with doctors who WON'T treat pain with effective medication. I'm sick of hearing people with FMS say their doctor told them "there's nothing I can do for you." I've been taking Vicodin for many years for breakthrough pain and have never gone above 10mg in a dose, and only take it 2-3 times a week or less. I'm definitely "addicted" to relief and fear having the FDA or the DEA outlaw the drug that allows me to live a normal life for the most part without fear of being unable to manage my pain.
Chronic pain in and of itself can cause personality changes - add to that the need to be on medication for the rest of your life and you have a recipe for depression, which sounds more like what's going on with him.
I hope you can get him some help - but I wouldn't be quick to blame the meds - more like blame the pain and the depression that can come with it.
PeaceN2You
Morphine is as addictive as herion. Don't let anyone kid you. I have 2 family members that are addicted to both and have been in and out of rehab trying to get off. If he say's he is not addicted then ask him to go 3 days without them and let you hold on to them. You are in denial if you ting he is nnot addicted, or maybe just hoping and praying. His Dr. is an ass. Please morphine for 2 years. In the hospital they will only give it to you 2-3 weeks and you have to be in serious pain. There is rehab for pain and physical therapy. You feel trapped but there is always a way, you just have to find it. I am sorry for your pain not his. Hope I am not being to harsh, been through this drug thing with to many people and have lost sympathy. See you in my prayers. Naomi xxoo
NaomiJane
If he is going through Cemo. He has pain and needs the morphine. Maybe ask the Dr for a pump that only administers the amount that he needs medically. That would be better than him, in his state of mind now, having control of his Morphine. Good luck and hang on. The ride that you are on is a tough one. Hugs Barb
bbbb
Have been there, done that. It is a terrible choice to have to make. Pain or Pills? Yes, your body does stop producing its own 'natural' pain relief, when the pills relieve the pain, the body says "Oh well, I'm not needed in that department any more".
However, having been there, I do think it is harsh to say to someone to "just come off of it for 3 days" - don't believe that this is the solution. He now will need help to destroy the demon that has helped him get through his pain. Perhaps, he will never be willing to destroy the demon.... then, you have some very serious thinking to do.. live with it, or leave it? I know my personality changed when I was on narcotics, as I took more to be able to function without hurting, then it would take even more to be able to stop hurting while functioning. The spiral effect, there was no other choice for me, except eliminating narcotics from my life, to live again.
The pain is still there, but I deal with it in other ways, hot baths, walking, going to work with children, writing, distraction, decluttering, or cussing up a storm if that's what it takes -- good luck my dear,
you will know the answer when the time comes.
SafeNSerene